“I don’t have to attend every argument I’m invited to.” -Unknown
We all have people who push our buttons – but we don’t have to participate! Our buttons are the things that make us angry or upset, that cause a strong negative reaction. Button pushing is not about the pusher, but the pushed. No one can make you feel anything, and you are in complete control. So, how can you change your reaction? Stop and take a deep breath. Ask yourself, “Do I want to act this way? What else may be going on here? How am I interpreting this situation? Which button is being pushed?” Then, knowing this: “How would I like to respond? What can I do differently in the future?” Be gentle, and practice without beating yourself up. Responding, rather than reacting, takes time. Luckily (I think), we get opportunities to practice all the time!