PARENTING WITH IMPACT PODCAST

Parenting with Impact Podcast

The Parenting with Impact Podcast with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster informs and inspires parents and professionals guiding complex kids to become capable, independent adults. The podcast will:
  • feature leading experts with cutting-edge information;
  • teach real-life, practical strategies to create lasting change;
  • demonstrate how the coach approach can improve family life.
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This Week's Episode: Are You Unflappable? Adapting to Parent Stress, Grief, Change and More with Renee Zavislak

Renee Zavislak, the host of Psycho Therapist: The Podcast, is a licensed psychotherapist, coach, and nutritionist in private practice; she specializes in treating complex trauma, high conflict families, and anxiety. Renée's homebase is Sonoma County, California, where she lives with her husband and son, and she travels to see clients in Los Angeles, New York City, and San Diego. In addition to weekly therapy sessions, Renée works via multi-day intensives for individuals, couples, and groups that focus on holistic healing. When she isn't working or cooking, she can be found fawning over her Canine-American soulmate, Chili.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Renee Zavislak about parental stress and grief.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Renee emphasizes the significance of being comfortable with making mistakes and apologizing to children.
  • Renee highlights the importance of catching kids being good and shifting the focus towards desired behaviors rather than solely addressing negative ones.
  • Renee advocates for parents to approach parenting with wonderment rather than expectation.
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Episode 171: Are You Unflappable? Adapting to Parent Stress, Grief, Change and More with Renee Zavislak

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Renee emphasizes the significance of being comfortable with making mistakes and apologizing to children.
  • Renee highlights the importance of catching kids being good and shifting the focus towards desired behaviors rather than solely addressing negative ones.
  • Renee advocates for parents to approach parenting with wonderment rather than expectation.

Episode 170: Early Childhood & Beyond: Parents Are a Child's First (and Forever) Teacher with Marquita Davis

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Marquita explains Kinder Care provides comprehensive care and education for children from six weeks to twelve years old, including traditional center care, before and aftercare, and a thriving aftercare program.
  • Parents are recognized as their child's first teachers and are supported in early learning settings through mental health and educational assistance, empowerment, and tools for transitioning into traditional settings.
  • Marquita discusses the emphasis on the partnership between parents and providers in early learning settings, with shared responsibility for supporting the child's development and creating a supportive environment.
  • Community support plays a crucial role in empowering parents to advocate for their children's well-being, access necessary resources for their development, and develop relationships with providers to effectively address concerns.

Episode 169: Beyond Mean Girls: Parenting and Dignity with Rosalind Wiseman

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Rosalind and Elaine discuss how technology and the Internet have changed parent-child communication, highlighting the struggle to find a balance between control and creating a safe environment.
  • Elaine and Rosalind talk about the difficulties parents encounter when communicating with their children, particularly when discussing topics like social dynamics and adolescent development.
  • Elaine and Rosalind emphasize the importance of supporting children and families during tough situations; they discuss treating children with dignity, highlighting the importance of valuing a person's inherent worth.
  • Elaine and Rosalind emphasize the importance of meeting complex kids where they are, understanding their underlying motivations, and respecting their agency in parent-child relationships.

Episode 168: Surgeon General Warning on Social Media: How Should Parents Respond? with Elaine and Diane

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Elaine and Diane encourage parents to reflect on their own technology habits and how they model healthy tech usage for their children.
  • Elaine and Diane explain it's crucial for parents to have open and honest conversations with their children about their online activities.
  • Elaine and Diane emphasize the importance of mindfulness in technology usage. They advocated for conscious engagement with digital tools and encouraged individuals to view technology as a supportive tool rather than a controlling force.

Episode 167: But I Don't Want To! The Emotions Behind Procrastination with Dani Donovan

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Dani emphasizes the effectiveness of personalized learning strategies, such as using art to help her son study. This highlights the significance of tailoring educational approaches to individual interests and needs.
  • The Feelings-Based Productivity Approach advocated by Dani organizes productivity tools based on emotional states. This approach addresses how individuals feel, ultimately boosting productivity by acknowledging and working with their emotions.
  • Elaine and Dani stress the importance of collaborative communication and incorporating humor to navigate the challenges of ADHD. Effective communication and a light-hearted approach can make dealing with ADHD-related difficulties more manageable.

Episode 166 Summer Stressors: Realistic Expectations with ADHD & Anxiety with Elaine and Diane

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Elaine and Diane advocate for a flexible structure that allows for goal-setting across different types of activities
  • Elaine and Diane stress the importance of parents prioritizing self-care during the summer months.
  • Involving children in the summer planning process not only encourages autonomy but also fosters essential life skills like executive function and self-sufficiency.

Episode 165 Co-Parenting with Elaine & David: Real Strategies to Improve Family Dynamics with David Taylor-Klaus

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • David emphasizes the importance of talking to your children about everything and allowing them to share their thoughts and feelings openly.
  • David and Elaine stress practicing active listening instead of constantly directing or correcting. Stay curious about their thoughts and experiences without imposing your own agenda. This helps build trust and strengthens the parent-child relationship.
  • David and Elaine understand parenting, especially in a collaborative manner, requires significant time, effort, energy, and attention. It's essential to prioritize self-care and recharge your own resources to effectively support your children in their growth and development. Jamie discusses the importance of understanding how shame contributes to emotional dysregulation in individuals with ADHD.

Episode 164 Shame Resilience: A Key Component in ADHD Wellness with Jamie
Blume

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Jamie discusses the importance of understanding how shame contributes to
    emotional dysregulation in individuals with ADHD.
  • Jamie emphasizes focusing on the wins, positives, strengths, and talents of
    younger kids with ADSHD to help build confidence and a better sense of self.
  • Jamie also explains the importance of staying calm during tough
    conversations to build self-confidence and resilience.
  • Elaine stresses the importance of setting intentions before taking action –
    something that is often overlooked in a community where the focus tends to
    be on quick fixes. Slowing down and understanding the situation and setting
    clear intentions can help reduce fear and anxiety.

Episode 163: How to Stop Fixing So You Can Start Helping with Elaine and Diane

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Diane and Elaine stress the importance of letting children know that it's okay to seek assistance, fostering collaboration and problem-solving skills.
  • Elaine and Diane agree; by staying composed, both parents and children can navigate difficulties effectively, validate emotions, and engage in collaborative problem-solving.
  • Elaine and Diane stress the importance of understanding and fostering resilience in children, especially in the context of neurodiversity.

Episode 162: Helping Younger Kids Manage Daily Life Challenges with Alysson Foti Bourque

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Alysson highlights the importance of instilling bravery in children. By celebrating small victories and encouraging problem-solving, kids can develop important tools to navigate life's challenges.
  • The Alycat series serves as a great example of using storytelling to help children navigate complex emotions and friendships.
  • Alysson’s books showcase the value of relying on friends during challenging times. By working together and offering support, children can learn to conquer their fears and navigate difficult situations.

Episode 161: When It Feels Like It’s Just Too Much with Elaine and Diane

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

  • Diane discusses the significance of self-talk and coaching oneself through
    difficult situations, underscoring the need to help parents navigate challenging
    circumstances with resilience.
  • Elaine emphasizes the need to find a balance between anticipating potential
    challenges and not overwhelming oneself with excessive planning.
  • Diane encourages listeners to celebrate small wins along the way,
    acknowledging that life is full of ups and downs like to a rollercoaster ride.

Episode 160: Success! "Dad's Fun, But I Can Talk to Mom About Anything" with Sonja

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Sonja stresses the need to shift from completing tasks for the child to empowering them to seek help and overcome challenges independently.
  • Sonja highlights the importance of adapting parenting strategies to meet the individual needs of each child.
  • Sonja emphasizes the need for parents to understand and embrace the unique needs and viewpoints of each child, ultimately enhancing the child's environment for growth and development.

Episode 159: Rules, Boundaries, & Agreements: Balancing Freedom with Responsibility with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Elaine and Diane emphasize the importance of understanding the distinctions between rules, agreements, and boundaries.
  • Regular accountability checks within agreements can enhance collaboration and mutual understanding within the family; this practice fosters a sense of responsibility and accountability among family members, ultimately strengthening the family dynamic.
  • Setting boundaries is crucial for protecting one's emotional well-being. Boundaries guide children towards independence, self-ownership, and responsibility.

Episode 158: ADHD Diagnosis & Treatment: From Skepticism to Evidence-Based Innovation with Phil Anderton

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Phil discusses the systematic approach to diagnosing and treating ADHD in patients of all ages. His focus on providing comprehensive care through assessments, treatment, and support services reflects a shift towards acknowledging and accepting ADHD as a neurodiverse condition that requires attention and understanding.
  • Phil emphasizes the importance of addressing skepticism towards ADHD diagnosis and the benefits of medication and accommodations for individuals with ADHD. He advocates for improved outcomes and quality of life, using examples like comparing ADHD medication side effects to common pain relievers and discussing the necessity of accommodations, such as extended time in exams, to support individuals with ADHD in achieving success.
  • Phil emphasizes the importance of evidence-based practices in advocating for ADHD acceptance and treatment. By using medical evidence and a data-driven approach, Phil aims to address funding battles and challenge misconceptions about ADHD in the National Health Service and educational institutions, with the goal of making positive impacts on individuals' lives through evidence-backed interventions and treatment options.
  • Phil explains digitized clinic processes streamline patient journeys and enhance assessments through video conferences. By offering assessments in patients' homes, the clinic reduces anxiety associated with in-person visits, leading to more accurate results and improved patient outcomes.
  • Phil and Diane explain the ADHD diagnosis process can be simplified by blending qualitative and quantitative data. By using screening tools, DSM criteria, and semi-structured interviews, clinicians can streamline the diagnostic process to a few hours of focused assessment.

Episode 157: Balancing Boundaries to Stop Emotional Parenting with Aaron Huey

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Aaron emphasizes the significance of a parenting approach with strong boundaries, influenced by his parents' progressive attitudes with stern, traditional discipline and expectations. He credits his mom and stepdad for instilling in him the value of setting strong boundaries while supporting and uplifting children. This approach reflects a modern understanding that focuses on empowering children while maintaining clear guidelines and expectations.
  • Aaron advocates for parents to acknowledge past parenting approaches, embrace radical change, and commit to making necessary adjustments for a better future. He emphasizes the importance of parents doing their inner work, healing past wounds, and being present for their children in a way that meets their needs.
  • Neurodiversity Informed Coaching focuses on understanding behaviors as symptoms of underlying struggles, teaching parents coaching skills to support their children. By recognizing that behaviors are often solutions to unmet needs like safety, power, connection, freedom, and worth, parents can approach their children's actions with empathy.
  • Parenting strategies involve understanding the reasons for a child's behavior and avoiding emotional reactions. By analyzing the why behind a child's actions, parents can address root causes rather than just reacting.
  • Aaron stresses the significance of expressing love and support, emphasizing that the love we withhold is the pain we carry, affecting not only ourselves but also our children and relationships. By creating a space for open communication, understanding, and empathy, individuals can navigate the challenges of parenting and relationships with compassion and resilience.

Episode 156: The Surprising Challenges of a Strengths-Based Approach with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Elaine and Diane emphasize the importance of celebrating children's strengths and capacities, even during struggles. By focusing on what works and providing genuine acknowledgments, parents can help build self-awareness, resilience, and positive self-perception in their children.
  • Giving positive feedback to children, even if they may initially struggle to accept or believe it, can have a significant impact on their self-esteem and growth. The importance of persistently offering compliments, even in a subtle manner, is highlighted to help children gradually internalize and believe in the positive affirmations.
  • Elaine and Diane discuss that recognizing and acknowledging a child's strengths boosts their self-esteem and provides them with the confidence and resilience needed to navigate challenges and succeed in life. By focusing on these strengths and building upon them gradually, parents can help their children develop important skills and overcome obstacles more easily.
  • Elaine and Diane explain encouraging parents to identify and celebrate unusual strengths in their children can foster a positive self-image. Highlighting the importance of recognizing and praising unique abilities like attention to detail or resilience can help children build confidence and develop a positive self-perception.

Episode 155: Understanding Learning Styles: A Curiosity-Driven Approach with Derek Baynton

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Derek shares how embracing his need for movement has helped him comprehend information better and generate creative ideas, highlighting the potential benefits of incorporating movement into learning and cognitive processes for individuals with ADHD.
  • Advocating for a strengths-based approach in parenting and education involves recognizing and capitalizing on individual strengths and abilities. By reframing perceived deficits as gifts and challenges as opportunities, parents can help their children thrive by identifying and nurturing their unique strengths.
  • Understanding and embracing the unique learning styles of children is crucial. By staying curious, asking questions, and observing how their children learn best, parents can help create environments that cater to their children's individual needs.
  • Staying curious as a parent is crucial in understanding children's behaviors and preferences. By observing and exploring what works for kids, parents can tailor their approach to better support their individual needs and learning styles.
  • Teaching children to make choices is essential for their development, as it helps them build confidence, agency, and decision-making skills. By allowing children to make their own decisions, parents can assist them in overcoming challenges and fostering independence.

Episode 154: Parent Success! What We Wish We'd Known 10 Years Ago with Diane and Andy Solomon

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Diane and Andy explain Parent Training and Support is crucial in understanding and supporting children with ADHD. Through this training, parents can gain a deeper understanding of their child's ADHD diagnosis, leading to a shift in perspective from frustration to acceptance.
  • Diane and Andy have shifted from a dictatorship parenting style to a more conversational and supportive approach. By focusing on building relationships and gaining buy-in from their children, they have seen significant improvements in their relationships and outcomes for their kids.
  • Diane and Andy have shown that parents can have different approaches to parenting while still successfully co-parenting and supporting their children. Despite their differences, they have managed to parent together effectively, demonstrating that there is no one-size-fits-all method to parenting.

Episode 153: Trusting Complex Kids & Helping Them Trust Us with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Diane and Elaine emphasize the importance of trust between parents and children, and highlight the impact of trust gaps on frustration. They discuss the challenges faced by parents of complex kids and stress the need for understanding and support.
  • Diane and Elaine delve into the challenges of trust-building, particularly with complex kids. They discuss the importance of understanding trust gaps, and managing expectations.
  • Elaine and Diane explain setting realistic expectations based on a child's developmental capacity is crucial for fostering trust and growth. By acknowledging and working with a child's challenges, parents can create a supportive environment that encourages trust, honesty, and growth in their relationship with their child.
  • Diane and Elaine emphasize the importance of trust in relationships, highlighting the need to assume best intentions and understand that trust is a process that requires effort from all parties involved.

Episode 152: Adapting as a Parent: How to Hold On While Letting Go with Deborah MacNamara

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The developmentalist approach, explained by Deborah McNamara, focuses on understanding human development and its connection to parenting. This approach emphasizes helping children grow and thrive, and understanding what parents need to do to support their child's development.
  • Parenting complex kids can be a challenging and rewarding journey. These complex kids require parents to adapt and be flexible to understand their unique needs. Parenting, in general, is an adaptive endeavor, but it becomes even more apparent when raising children with complex needs. The key to adaptation lies in keeping our hearts warm and maintaining a sense of care and patience, even in the face of frustration and stress.
  • Neurodivergent development explores the challenges faced by parents of neurodivergent children. Deborah emphasizes the importance of creating supportive environments and providing structure, routine, and boundaries to help these children develop their identity and navigate the world.
  • Trial and error is crucial for neurodivergent individuals to navigate their lives and find their passions. By giving them opportunities to be the answer to something, such as through volunteer work or involvement in a community, they can develop a sense of identity and learn appropriate behavior.
  • The topic of holding on to kids while allowing them to let go explores the long-term relationship between parents and their children. Deborah emphasizes the importance of this throughout their development, from infancy to adulthood. She finds inspiration in Gordon and Gabbar's book, "Hold on to Your Kids." Holding on to our children means providing support and guidance, even when we are not physically present. It involves instilling our values and fostering a healthy and independent relationship.

Episode 151: Improving Practices, Diagnosis, and Treatment of ADHD with Aaron Dodini

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Aaron emphasizes the importance of working with families, systems, and communities to provide support. He believes that a proper diagnosis for adults is crucial for improving their lives and their ability to support their children. When parents receive the support they need, they can reinforce support for their kids, leading to greater intimacy within the family.
  • According to Aaron, there is no cure for ADHD, but a combination of approaches can be beneficial. Medication is important, but should be complemented with behavioral training, therapies, and exercises. Aaron emphasizes the importance of using a whole toolbox of strategies to address the various aspects of ADHD.
  • Aaron explains, ADHD can be a catalyst for personal growth and excellence. Embracing a diagnosis of ADHD can lead to thriving and personal development. Therapy can help adults navigate the emotional aspects and come to terms with their diagnosis, although it may not address all executive function challenges. Aaron emphasizes the importance of self-love, compassion, and understanding oneself better, which therapy can facilitate. Ultimately, an ADHD diagnosis can serve as an invitation to self-awareness and growth.
  • Many of our defense mechanisms and ways of motivating ourselves that once served us well may no longer be effective as we evolve. Elaine mentions the "stick" that adults with ADHD have used to beat themselves up in order to be successful. While this coping mechanism may have worked in the past, it is important for individuals to learn to put the stick down and find healthier ways to motivate themselves.

Episode 150: Recognizing and Managing Stress Triggers as Parents with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Parenting challenges can significantly impact the well-being and emotions of parents. Diane and Elaine explore the theme that parents often become stressed, overwhelmed, and experience a range of emotions due to their focus on their children. They emphasize the importance of parents taking care of themselves in order to effectively engage with their children. They discuss the need for parents to be in a good mental state to problem solve and navigate the complexities of parenting.
  • Diane shares her personal experience of realizing her stress while watching home videos. She struggled to control the chaos in her life. Elaine adds that stress can lead to offensive or defensive approaches, such as shutting down or becoming aggressive. Diane explains the stages of dysregulation, where emotions and logical thinking compete in the brain. This often happens when parents feel overwhelmed, worried, or burdened by guilt or perfectionism. Elaine emphasizes that parents may react to stress in various ways, including internalizing, engaging in unhealthy behaviors, or resorting to explosions, blaming, and micromanaging.
  • Prevention is crucial for maintaining emotional well-being and avoiding reactive behaviors. Diane and Elaine discuss the importance of recognizing triggers and staying aware to prevent escalation. Elaine shares an interesting perspective about how children and adults may already be in a triggered state, making explosive reactions more likely.
  • Emotional regulation is a crucial skill that helps individuals manage their emotions and respond to challenging situations in a healthy manner. According to Diane and Elaine, it's important to be gentle with oneself when it comes to emotional regulation. They suggest taking a moment to breathe, reclaim your brain, and figure out what you need in that moment. They also highlight the importance of finding strategies that work for you, such as taking a walk or engaging in self-care activities. Ultimately, emotional regulation is about noticing and navigating your emotions.

Episode 149: Using Humor as a Path to Connect with Amy Standridge

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Amy has dedicated over 20 years to this profession finding purpose in helping others through music. During the COVID-19 pandemic, when face-to-face interactions were limited, Amy explored therapeutic humor as an alternative way to fulfill her passion. She emphasizes the importance of laughter and playfulness in building relationships and motivating individuals, whether through activities like singing or finding coping strategies for self-care.
  • Amy emphasizes using humor to build strong bonds with children and motivate them. Engaging in joyful activities like singing or sharing jokes creates a sense of connection and strengthens relationships. Incorporating humor into self-care routines can also provide coping strategies during challenging times. By intentionally seeking out humor and creating a structure for fun conversations, parents can cultivate a light-hearted and joyful atmosphere in their homes.
  • Amy explains humor is a source of joy and entertainment with numerous benefits for our health and well-being. Engaging in humor and fun activities with loved ones helps build strong bonds and releases oxytocin, creating a sense of connection and happiness. Humor also serves as a powerful tool for self-care, providing coping strategies during challenging times.
  • According to Amy, laughter yoga has numerous health benefits and can be a powerful tool for connecting with others. The practice involves finding your own sense of humor and being authentic in your laughter. It can be used as a way to bond with family members, especially children, through sharing funny memes, watching funny movies, or playing games that lead to laughter.

Episode 148: Nurturing Talents: Supporting Children's Passions and Interests with Jesse LeBeau

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Finding strengths and pursuing passions is crucial for personal growth and fulfillment. Jesse emphasizes the importance of allowing children to explore their own interests and not forcing them into preferred activities. He advises parents to support their children's strengths and help them find activities they are passionate about.
  • Jesse emphasizes the power of attitude. He learned the significance of attitude from his father, who taught him by observing how athletes reacted to setbacks in sports games. Instead of focusing on their successes, they paid attention to how they handled failures and disappointments. This lesson had a profound effect on Jesse's life, teaching him that while we can't always control what happens to us, we can control our attitude towards it. By becoming the master of our own attitude, we can live a happier, more successful, and fulfilled life.
  • Jesse stresses how the importance of self-care and grace are essential for maintaining mental and emotional well-being. He highlights the importance of prioritizing self-care and adopting a positive attitude, even in the face of adversity. Jesse acknowledges that everyone's experiences and backgrounds differ, but it is crucial to empathize with others and recognize the validity of their struggles. He encourages individuals, regardless of age or circumstance, to understand that they are not alone in their challenges and that seeking resources and support is a positive step.
  • Jesse discusses balancing independence and parental guidance is a complex task for parents in today's digital age. One of the biggest challenges parents face is managing their children's relationship with technology, particularly smartphones and social media. Setting systems in place to monitor screen time and access is important, as the allure of endless scrolling and the influence of online content can negatively impact a child's life.

Episode 147: Shifting from Nagging to Collaborative Solutions with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The topic of shifting from nagging to collaborative problem-solving in parenting is a crucial one, as it can significantly impact the dynamics of parent-child relationships. Elaine believes in a more playful approach to parenting, while Diane acknowledges that nagging often stems from a place of fear and anxiety.
  • Nagging can be detrimental to relationships, causing annoyance and a breakdown in communication. Elaine and Diane explore the negative effects of nagging and discuss alternative ways to address concerns.
  • Elaine and Diane dive into the role of executive function support in parenting. They share insights on shifting from nagging to a collaborative approach, empowering children to take ownership.
  • Elaine and Diane explore the power of shifting from nagging to reminding with permission. Learn how a simple reminder system transformed one family's dynamic and created a more positive approach to reminding.

Episode 146: Simple, Safe & Connected -- Tips to Navigate Big Emotions with Sonali Vongchusiri

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Sonali shares her experiences and the difficulties she faced in her relationship with her children. Sonali realized she needed to find her own approach to parenting, one that aligned with her needs and the needs of her children. She emphasizes the importance of connection and sharing truth with ourselves and our kids, rather than trying to fit into a mold of what parenting should look like.
  • Sonali emphasizes the challenge of meeting both parent and child needs simultaneously. She suggests acknowledging both the child and parent's needs instead of trying to fix the situation. One effective approach she recommends is using nonverbal communication.
  • She expresses the importance of feeling safe and stable in any emotional situation, whether dealing with a frustrated child or facing overwhelming circumstances. Sonali introduces the SHUAVE Process, which involves accepting and approving of oneself, aligning with emotions, and feeling a sense of belonging and validation.

Episode 145: Navigating Communication and Complexity in Parenting with Leslie Josel

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Leslie shares her journey of becoming an accidental entrepreneur. She explains how effective communication and support can make a difference in raising complex kids.
  • Leslie and Elaine dive into the crucial role of brain activation in parenting and effective communication with children. Leslie shares insights on medication, meditation, sleep, nutrition, and exercise.
  • Leslie explains techniques on acknowledging your child's current state, choosing the right moment to talk, and prioritizing clear communication. She describes how to create an environment where children feel comfortable discussing important matters without triggering defensiveness.

Episode 144: Helping Young Adults Get Back On Track with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Diane, who has been actively supporting parents of young adults for three years, emphasizes the need for understanding, guidance, and support for parents navigating this stage of life. She believes in creating space for young adults to ask for help and for parents to support their agenda, while also acknowledging the complexities involved in parenting young adults.
  • Elaine stresses the importance of building and maintaining strong relationships with young adults, fostering trust, and effective communication. She encourages parents to focus on the progress and incremental growth of their young adults, rather than solely on the desired outcome of complete independence.
  • Elaine and Diane dive into the complex world of parenting adult children. From establishing boundaries to fostering open communication, they explore the ups and downs of this ever-evolving process.

Episode 143: Navigating Parenthood: Embracing the Coach Approach with Elena Nichols

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Learn how observing herself and taking a pause before reacting changed her interactions with her children.
  • Discover coaching as a transformative profession that opens the door to a whole new world. Through coaching, obstacles and challenges are easily resolved, and everything flows effortlessly
  • Learn how parent coaching as a transformative approach that empowers parents to navigate the challenges of raising complex kids.

Episode 142: Helping Complex Kids Envision Their Future with Sheila Akbar

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Encouraging students to focus on positives, emphasizing strengths, and acknowledging their unique interests.
  • Emphasizing the importance of daily discipline and skill-building rather than solely focusing on achieving set goals.
  • Emphasizing the need for kids to own their aspirations and motivations rather than parents imposing their agendas.
  • Reframing failure as a learning opportunity and a part of the journey toward finding the right path.
  • Advocating for a safe space where kids can explore interests and change their minds without pressure.

Episode 141: What Support do ADHD'ers Need? Book Smart or Street Smart? with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Shifting Perspectives: From deficit-based to strength-oriented approaches - Observing a transition from a disempowered view of ADHD to an empowered and strength-based outlook within the community.
  • Complexity of ADHD: Understanding the multifaceted nature of ADHD, including the complexities of diagnosis, treatment, and coexisting conditions, leading to a more nuanced approach in managing the condition.
  • Change Management vs. Behavior Management: Recognizing the need for change management alongside behavior management, especially in familial and educational contexts, emphasizing a holistic approach to support individuals with ADHD.
  • Empowerment and Transformation: Highlighting the transformative impact of their coaching approach, focusing on deeper conversations beyond problem-solving, empowering individuals to manage ADHD effectively and encouraging personal growth.

Episode 140: Connection & Compassion: Parenting Children & Teens in Difficult Times with Susan Stiffelman

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The impact of parental engagement in children's emotional and academic development, and the importance of understanding diverse learning methods.
  • Addressing the challenges parents face in a world where teenagers are inundated with overwhelming information, and the need for parents to help their children navigate this landscape.
  • Stressing the significance of self-compassion and finding support in parenting, and the need to prioritize self-care while creating or seeking out supportive communities for guidance and shared experiences.

Episode 139: Navigating the Parenthood Journey with Conscious Transformation and Empathy with Ginny Luther

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Embracing empathy and connection over control in parenting complex children.
  • Recognizing disappointment and failure as invaluable learning opportunities for children.
  • Prioritizing self-acceptance and empathy to foster trust and empowerment in parent-child relationships.
  • Navigating through loss and tragedy with resilience and the lessons learned from such experiences.

Episode 138: How Do I Get My Kid To Talk To Me? 4 Communication Tools with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Permission-based conversations and breadcrumb cues for smoother interactions.
  • AC-E Method: Acknowledge emotions without judgment, wait or pause to let emotions settle, and then explore options or inquiries for problem-solving.
  • Designing Conversations: Offering acknowledgment or a gift, making requests, and performing check-ins for reciprocal and inclusive discussions, aiming for collaborative problem-solving.
  • Trust and Connection: Emphasis on maintaining trust and connection with kids as the foundation for effective communication and problem-solving, fostering collaborative dialogue and mutual understanding.

Episode 137: Emotional Intelligence in Parenting with Stephanie Pinto

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What is emotional intelligence and how does it impact the ability to regulate emotions?
  • The key components of the 26 competencies of emotional intelligence- what is most important?
  • Punishment vs. discipline- are you responding or reacting? Which will help your child grow?

Episode 136: Neurodivergence & Children of Color: Parenting at the Intersections with Jaya Ramesh MA LMHC, CCTP & Priya Saaral LICSW, RPT-S

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Approaching support for neurodivergent children while considering cultural backgrounds and communities.
  • Parents of marginalized children are working within certain systems. One size does not fit all, and each community comes with a different set of rules.
  • How might interactions be different when advocating for your neurodivergent child when you are a person of color? Are there underlying fears and expectations that others may not face?

Episode 135: It’s All About Control: Are You Ready? with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • A rigid definition of success for our kids sets them up for failure- there are many definitions and many paths to get there, and your definition will evolve as your child grows.
  • Reflecting upon why you are holding on so tightly to your idea of the path and the end point of success for your child.
  • Transferring ownership from you to your child to get to the outcome you can both agree on.

Episode 134: Parenting Young Boys with Difficult Behaviors with Tosha Schore

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • In the era of “me too” and feminism, how do we want to raise the next generation of young men?
  • Connection between parent and child is the key to reducing aggressive behaviors in boys. When you lean into your relationship, he will do better.
  • Shifting your mindset on how you parent- showing compassion and embracing emotion is valuable in raising boys who have a better handle on their own feelings and behaviors.

Episode 133: Parents are the Sleeping Giant in Executive Function Education with Sean McCormick

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Collaboration between parent + student + teacher yields great results when working with your child to improve academic success.
  • What is “affective filtering” and how do you work with your child to build confidence and an openness to receiving positive feedback?
  • Support is the best way you can set your child up for success- but you can’t do it all on your own.

Episode 132: If They Would Just ... Guiding Kids to Take Ownership of Their Own Agenda with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How do you get your child to take ownership of a responsibility? What is in it for them?
  • Motivations may seem simple for younger kids, but what can you do for teens and young adults to create a shared agenda?
  • Keeping in mind the ultimate goal: your child becomes driven and autonomous—this may mean different goals than yours.

Episode 131: Can Helping Too Much Actually Hinder Your Child's Growth? with Misty Wagner

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Finding opportunities to allow your child to assert their independence, is where growth happens, and knowing when your child truly needs your help or guidance.
  • Outlining the steps needed and providing clear guidance as they learn to do something themselves.
  • How to assist your child with coming up with a strategy to identify and solve a problem, by establishing an outcome and detailing the steps needed to achieve it.

Episode 130: 2E Kids & Adults: When Easy is Hard and Hard is Easy with Julie Skolnick

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Looking at giftedness as a 3-layer cake: intelligence, asynchronous learning, excitability.
  • Gifted vs High Achieving- what is the difference? Are “gifted programs” for 2E kids?
  • Why gifted individuals can struggle with school and have behavioral issues.

Episode 129: Asking For Help: Why Is It So Difficult? with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What are the common reasons people don’t ask for and accept help?
  • Is it helping or is it controlling? Learning the difference and helping your kid to trust you will assist and not take over.
  • Needing help does not mean you are inadequate. How can you model seeking help for your child?
  • Guiding your child into directing YOU in how you can help them.

Episode 128: Paradox: High Achieving Adults with ADHD with Casey Dixon

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Under the surface of a highly successful adult with ADHD is often a sea of struggles and history of being dismissed.
  • Managing ADHD while achieving success and finding a balance that doesn’t leave you exhausted and overextended.
  • Taking the complexity out of living well with adult ADHD with treatment and coaching.

Episode 127: Yes, Your Complex Kid WILL Get Into College! with Michelle McAnaney

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Keys to a smooth transition from high school to college for complex kids.
  • Grasp a better understanding of college disability services and accommodations available.
  • Fostering independence and managing anxiety to ensure college success.
  • Remember that your child will change and grow over time, so keep researching and understanding all the options available.
  • Encourage your child to take ownership of the process as much as possible, but be there to support and guide them as needed.

Episode 126: Motivation Myths and the Magic of P.I.N.C.H. with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What is the role of motivation in getting things done?
  • When it looks like your kid lacks motivation, what is really happening?
  • If your child does not have internal motivation, it does not mean a lack of moral values.
  • What are the 5 motivators in P.I.N.C.H., and how can they be applied?

Episode 125: Success! A Mother’s Journey From Shame to Acceptance with Jennifer Gay Summers

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Discover the intricacies of raising a child with ADHD and other disabilities.
  • Learn the value of self-education and advocacy when supporting a child with unique needs.
  • Explore the art of releasing traditional expectations and embracing a more personalized approach.
  • Delve into coping with grief and celebrating the unique attributes of one's child.
  • Uncover the power of memoir writing in sharing experiences and raising awareness.

Episode 124: Keys to Parenting Autism: Education, Coaching & You! with Andrea Pollack

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Shift your perspective by understanding the value of focusing on your child's capabilities.
  • Decipher the hidden motives behind challenging behaviors exhibited by children with autism.
  • Embrace essential self-care practices for parents to ensure balance and optimal support.

Episode 123: Are You Stuck in Informationland? with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Transformation requires information, integration, implementation; you cannot simply stop at information.
  • It is important to understand repetition and improvisation when implementing ideas for change.
  • Strategies alone are not always enough, especially if they are not used in an effective context.
  • What are the “magic 3 questions” to ask yourself if you don’t think a strategy is working?

Episode 122: Medical Bias VS. ADHD: The History of a Smear Campaign with Kelly Pickens, APNP, FNP-BC, ADC-C

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Examine the history of bias against the diagnosis and treatment of ADHD within the healthcare system.
  • Investigate the fascinating roots of ADHD and its (lack of) acceptance as a mental health disorder.
  • Gain insights into how ADHD interacts with other health challenges and its effect on longevity.

Episode 121: Every Day's a New Day: Success with Community Support & Parent Coaching with Ellen

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Unlock wisdom to navigate the high seas of parenting complex children towards victorious outcomes.
  • Uncover the potent impact of community support to uplift parents of complex children.
  • Unbox the potentials of the coach approach for an enriching parenting experience with complex children.
  • Grasp the significance of self-care, adaptability, and introspection in molding the life of your complex child.

Episode 120: Navigating Drama Triangles and Family Dynamics with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Navigate your way through family conflict resolution techniques.
  • Unpack methods for helping children preserve ties with both parents.
  • Absorb strategies for staying impartial and empathetic during family disputes.
  • Unravel the process to bypass the savior or defender role in family fights.
  • Unearth pivotal ways to boost considerate communication and mutual understanding among family members.

Episode 119: When Youth are Targeted: The Impact of Bullies, Victims, Bystanders & Institutional Betrayal with Kayla Taylor

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Validating and nurturing self-esteem of neurodiverse children.
  • Institutional betrayal of children and families navigating complex challenges.
  • Parental involvement in mitigating bullying and advocating for neurodiverse individuals.

Episode 118: What Strong Willed Kids Need from You Most with Randi Rubenstein

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Practical approaches for managing emotions and establishing a healthy family life.
  • Active listening and validation helps nurture secure attachments with your little ones.
  • Strategies for guiding your children without controlling or remedying their behavior.

Episode 117: Treating ADHD Improves Outcomes for Treating Addiction with Chris Foster and Jeremy Didier

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Links between ADHD and addiction, risk minimization and recovery approaches.
  • The importance of accurate and prompt ADHD for maximum effectiveness in treatment
  • Dismantling common biases regarding ADHD medication and potential addiction.

Episode 116: Black Woman Psychotherapist & Coach on ADHD, Resilience & Community with IngerShaye Colzie

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Tackle ADHD evaluation and resource hurdles successfully in educational settings.
  • Implementing effective strategies to manage stress and its impact on parental ADHD symptoms.
  • A look into the of race in ADHD diagnosis practices and therapeutic approaches.

Episode 115: Parenting with Presence: Celebrating Neurodiversity in Kids and Adults with Hope Zvara

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Develop a toolbox of practices to support neurodivergent kids in life's challenges.
  • Embrace and celebrate neurodiversity by understanding your kid’s individual needs.
  • The significance of self-care, self-awareness, and continued learning in raising children.

Episode 114: Success! Curiosity & the Coach-Approach Transformed the Tone of Her Home with Melanie Sobocinski

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How neurodiversity-informed coaching is revolutionizing the parenting experience.
  • How Sanity School provides beneficial resource for parents and professionals
  • Balance between expectations, support, and professional development

Episode 113: The 4 Sources of Conflict in YOUR Family: Part 2 with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Common catalysts for family discord and how to address them.
  • Resolve conflicts involving power imbalances and shifting priorities.
  • Transition towards a collaborative and supportive family environment.

Episode 112: The 4 Sources of Conflict in YOUR Family: Part 1 with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Pinpoint core causes of disagreement in parenting
  • Appreciate the value of validating your child's concerns and perspectives.
  • Develop and maintain a strong foundation of trust in your parent-child bond.
  • Discern how unreal expectations amplify conflicts.

Episode 111: Digital Citizenship: It's Not Too Late to Help Kids & Teens with Susan Hoyer

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Managing tech use for children with executive function or attachment struggles.
  • Gradually incorporating technology in children's lives, considering age and maturity.
  • Master the progression from restricted to free-range tech usage for emerging teens.

Episode 110: CBT for ADHD: Thoughts Don't Cause ADHD, But They Can Help Manage It with Dr. Russell Ramsay

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Discover the immense benefits of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in treating ADHD.
  • Learn how the Coach Approach helps create personalized strategies for thriving with ADHD.
  • Develop an unstoppable growth mindset for achieving outstanding success.

Episode 109: Success! I Changed My Family's Life with Help from Sanity School® with Roxanne Jarrett

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Prioritizing self-care and tapping into supportive resources.
  • Strengthen the parent-child connection through fostering interdependence and
    trust.
  • Adopting inspired strategies to overcome challenging situations.

Episode 108: It’s No Mystery: Why Kids Resist Help and How To Change It with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Uncover the underlying causes for children's hesitancy to request assistance
  • Cultivate an environment that fosters trust and promotes support-seeking
  • Initiate change in cultural perspectives of seeking help and collaboration

Episode 107: College Transition Educator: Helping Students Be Successful in College with Andrea Malkin Brenner, PhD.

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Being realistic: kids don’t go from dependent to independent overnight
  • Teaching life skills early on, step by step. What are the necessary life skills?
  • Your child does not need to be 100% ready. Colleges offer support in finding their way

Episode 106: When Parenting Feels Like a Burning Building with Lt. Shannon Sedlacek (Ret.)

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Mastering the art of staying grounded when faced with high-pressure situations
  • Utilizing the head, the heart, and the hara (flow and action) to deal with stress
  • Collaboration through the coach approach to help your child work on problem solving

Episode 105: What’s The Hardest Thing About Having ADHD? with Eric Tivers

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How school system can make an ADHD diagnosis difficult to succeed.
  • What to do when you child’s hard work in school is ineffective and inefficient.
  • The unique insights gained from parenting a neurodivergent child.

Episode 104: Self Awareness, Self Regulation & Self Management with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Effectively navigating awareness, understanding, intention, and action as a coach.
  • What is needed to do to self-actualize in the way it is wanted most.
  • You can’t control what happens, you can only control how you respond.

Episode 103: Success! Building Strong Relationships at Home and Work with Danielle Junker

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How to best support neurodiverse children and foster strong relationships.
  • Discovering values and gaining clarity in what direction to take in life through coaching.
  • Finding balance between encouraging growth and accepting individual differences.

Episode 102: Stories are Emotional Learning for Complex Kids with Sally J. Pla

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Sally’s diagnosis of sensory integrative processing disorder autism at age 50.
  • Stories provide a neutral way to enter a conversation about emotions and feelings.
  • The importance of giving children the opportunity to create or tell their own stories.

Episode 101: Success! Navigating Resistant Kids and teens with a Coach-Approach with Jenny Drennan

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Strategies that can be used to collaborate with students and meet them where they are.
  • How the Coach approach can be used to scaffold students towards independence.
  • Asking open-ended questions to help to empower shift their narrative of themselves.

Episode 100: Insights from the Podcast: Celebrating 100 Episodes! with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • We have contributed to supporting hundreds of thousands of families all over the world!
  • Our guest experts offer implementable advice and tools to help families of complex kids.
  • Learning how to map out where you are so you can get to where you want to be.

Episode 099: Success! A Tiger Mom (& Coach) of a Different Stripe with Dorothy Liu

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Helping children actualize their optimal potential while respecting cultural expectations.
  • Employ strategies to create a balance between family life and work life.
  • Empowering children to become independent and embrace their unique qualities.

Episode 098: What the Research Tells Us about ADHD Couple Dynamics with Joyce Kubik and Robin Nordmeyer

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How can couples effectively manage ADHD in their relationship?
  • What strategies can couples use to create a more collaborative and open relationship?
  • What is the importance of understanding the role of coaching in relationships with ADHD?

Episode 097: Helping Complex Kids Process: A Student Coach’s Success Story with Scott Garbini

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Navigating the college process for students with ADHD and other learning differences.
  • Strategies for assisting students in achieving their goals.
  • How you can help your children with ADHD be successful without over-parenting.

Episode 096: 2022 Intern'l Conf on ADHD Takeaways Part 2: Technology & Gaming Research with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The correlation between screen use, excessive gaming, and severe ADHD.
  • Understanding the four types of screen use and the three types of gamers.
  • The risks and benefits of gaming, and how to collaborate with kids on a gaming agreement.

Episode 095: What's Different About a 2E Kid? with Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The "Bright and Quirky" phenomenon and how parents can find help for 2E kids.
  • The benefits of focusing on your child's strengths over their lagging skills.
  • Managing your child's internet use and creating balance of online and offline learning.

Episode 094: Suicidal Thoughts: What Every Parent Needs To Know with Frank King

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How Frank merged his personal experience with his comedic talent to help others in the workplace who struggle with suicidal thoughts.
  • What is Chronic Suicide Ideation and how can you change your thinking when presented with a challenge?
  • What is the three-legged stool of suicidality, and the importance of understanding how a suicidal person is thinking. It isn’t just about wanting to die. What parents can say and do.

Episode 093: Helping Kids Become Better Problem Solvers with David Lavietes

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Insights into how people think, feel, and act so you can engage more appropriately.
  • Why people make certain decisions and the importance of personal motivation to change.
  • Using different problem-solving methodologies to find solutions that work best for the individual.

Episode 092: Problem-Solving Collaboratively with a Communication Reset with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Using milestones for a fresh start and a do-over.
  • Breaking out of repetitive patterns in our relationships.
  • Strategies for resetting our expectations and shifting our perspectives.

Episode 091: A Mother's Journey to Joy & Self-Care with Jo Dodd

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How to transition your thinking and actions to achieve greater balance and well-being.
  • The importance of self-care and its essential role in a healthy family.
  • The power of positive thinking, embracing diversity, and crushing fear.

Episode 090: Re-Imagining Parenting: 7 Resilience Strategies for Today’s World with Dr. Michele Borba, Ed.D.

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How parents can make a difference in their child's life.
  • What kids need from adults to thrive.
  • How to foster resilience in kids.

Episode 089: Honoring Individuality: 'Different' Changes the World with Jonathan Mooney

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of self-advocacy for neurodivergent learners.
  • Strength-based versus deficit-based approaches to neurodiversity.
  • The power of positive future-focused thinking for neurodivergent learners.

Episode 088: Takeaway From This Year's International Conference on ADHD: Part 1 with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The growth of the coaching industry in relation to ADHD.
  • The increase in diversity and perspectives at the conference.
  • The idea that emotions are real and should not be shut down.

Episode 087: Success! The Coach Approach at Work and at Home with Mary Christine O’Connor Thomsen

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How a shift in focus from results to participation can transform relationships
  • The importance of connecting with other parents for support when raising young adults
  • The "gift of matter-of-fact" can manage triggers and regain perspective.

Episode 086: Optimizing Brain Wellness to Help Kids be Their Best Self with Dr. Rebecca Jackson

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How the brain works and how it affects our everyday lives.
  • The concept of neuroplasticity and how the brain can change at any age.
  • How to improve brain function through brain training and other exercises.

Episode 085: Treatment vs. Support: What do Complex Families Need? with Mikki Gaffen Stone

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Ten things to consider when trying to make a decision about medication.
  • Exactly what to look for in a behavior therapy training program. Short, sweet, and to the point -- don’t spend hours on the internet scouring.
  • ImpactParents gives you exactly what you need to know without wasting any time or effort.

Episode 084: Risky Behaviors with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The manifestation of risky behaviors in kids with ADHD.
  • Help manage risky behaviors and encourage good decisions.
  • Identifying the underlying causes, and addressing them.

Episode 083: Detox for Complex Kids: Understanding the Gut-Brain Connection with Dana Kay

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Removing the toxic load from your child’s life can reduce inflammation.
  • Is chelation the right choice for your child?
  • Your health is highly impacted by your gut, including your brain function.

Episode 082: Gender Confusion: A Primer for Parents with Cash Ashby

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Addressing a shift in your child’s gender identity with an open mind and respect.
  • Honoring both perspectives of parent and child based on lived experiences.
  • How to handle exploration of medical changes.

Episode 081: Barriers & Solutions to Supporting Students with ADHD with Adrien Harrison

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What are the commonalities of learning issues for Middle School children?
  • How can we simplify what teachers need to learn and do to support ADHD kids?
  • The challenges of coordinating parents/teachers/kids on a single system.

Episode 080: 4 Phases of Parenting: How to Support Without Enabling with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Independence is a process, not a moment of time. What are the 4 stages of parenting?
  • Identifying the difference between wanting independence and being capable of it.
  • Are you stuck in director mode? How do you get into collaboration mode?

Episode 079: Leveling the Playing Field: Accommodations is in High School and College with Laura J. Patey, M. Ed., and Sydney Taylor-Klaus

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What are the foundations of seeking accommodations in high school and college?
  • The importance of seeking support in college to understand needs on the college level.
  • Understanding the PURPOSE of accommodations is key in taking ownership.

Episode 078: Understanding Inattentive ADHD in Kids and Adults with Kristin Wilcox, PhD. and Cynthia Hammer

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Inattentive ADHD is often misdiagnosed- how does it differ from ADHD?
  • Understanding can offer opportunities for conscious self-management.
  • Teachers are not trained to recognize the signs, but are eager to know more.

Episode 077: Accommodations vs. Remediation - What's the Parent's Role? with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identify if your child is read for remediation or if they still need accommodation.
  • What kinds of accommodations can you create at home to help your child?
  • Remember to meet your child where they are and build up from there.

Episode 076: Family Systems Theory: You are Part of a Unit with Dr. Sharon Saline

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identifying factors affecting your complex kid within the family dynamic.
  • Creating guidance for your complex kid to provide support rather than criticism.
  • Compassion for yourself is just as important as compassion for your child.

Episode 075: Yes, You Can Teach Life Skills Through Gaming with Dan Clark

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Utilizing gaming as a way to connect with your child can be very impactful
  • Translate gaming skills into life skills- how to engage with others and problem solve
  • What are they different types of games, and what skills do they hone?

Episode 074: When Smart Kids Don’t Get Good Grades with Dr. Matt Zakreski

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The difference between synchronous and asynchronous neurodevelopment
  • What are the layers of development, and how do 2E kids compare to others?
  • How does the brain of a gifted child differ from others?

Episode 073: Dr. Ned Hallowell: ADDers Are The Game Changers with Dr. Ned Hallowell

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Jump in and Have Fun -- ADHD can be a lot of Fun, struggle, misery.
  • Co-morbidities of ADHD- what you need to be most concerned with.
  • What makes ADD/ADHD an asset?

Episode 072: Travel Planning with Anxious, Inflexible, Neurodiverse Kids with Dawn Barclay

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Small steps to ease your child into travel, and pinpointing triggers.
  • Creating specific activities just for your kid- include them in planning.
  • Explore the ever-growing options for special accommodation for your child.
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Episode 071: Tools To Enhance Your Coaching with Kate Barrett

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Encouraging and exercising resiliency is one of the most effective coaching tools.
  • Employing the coach took box at home improves your ability to help your clients.
  • Build a community of those who get what you are going through.

Episode 070: ADHD & Depression, ADHD & Anxiety, and All of the Above with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • ADHD and depression are often intertwined. How finding the right provider is key in building support for your kid.
  • Depression does not always manifest as sadness, what are the lesser-known symptoms of depression?
  • How to continue challenging executive function skills without triggering depression or pushing your child to the point of refusal.

Episode 069: Parenting Neurodiversity: What You Don’t Know! with Lisa Richer

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What a neurodiverse learner is, possible causes and how they process information.
  • Advocating for your kid starts with understanding how their brain functions and learns.
  • Family & friends can be detractors when not understanding your child or what they need.

Episode 068: The Independence Pyramid: Big Picture and Daily Tasks with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The relationship you have with your child is the foundation to building independence.
  • Your role in getting your child to self-manage, in progressive, buildable steps.
  • Fostering independence in our kids happens is habit building and trust.

Episode 067: Teaching Kids To Be Responsible With Technology with Anne Marie McDonald

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Tech in steps- we cannot throw our kids into tech without learning about it first
  • Using tech is a great way to have conversations with your kid that connects with them
  • Simplified tech is a great way to move into mainstream tech, creating manageable limits

Episode 066: RESENTMENT! Understanding, Managing, & Overcoming It with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Resentment can stem from unmet expectations, or the inability to fix something.
  • When we feel resentment, we apply a negative filter to everything and increase stress.
  • How to begin problem solving to overcome resentment.

Episode 065: Regulating ADHD with Neurofeedback with Miriam Bellamy

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What neurofeedback is and how it works and can improve self-regulation.
  • An exposure to biological triggers can lead to multigenerational complex issues.
  • Viewing ADHD as a personality trait and a superpower rather than a diagnosed problem.

Episode 064: Undefinable Brilliance: Brain Development Essentials with Deborah McNelis, M.Ed.

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The 4 major areas of optimal neurodevelopment on a brain from birth to adulthood.
  • Understanding why some children have a developmental delay, and the way forward.
  • Neuroplasticity and how it is never too late to develop new neural pathways.

Episode 063: What To Teach Kids & Teens About Money Management with Rick Webster

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • 61% of individuals with ADHD have significant and severe financial difficulties.
  • Fundamentals: learn how credit works, balancing checkbooks, and budgeting.
  • Teach financial awareness early on; habits learned now will impact the future.

Episode 062: Preventing Stimulus Misuse and Diversion with Kevin Antshel

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Kevin's prevention and intervention education for college freshman.
  • The importance of parental monitoring of these medications at home - counting pills.
  • Understanding diversion - requests to buy your student's legitimate prescription.

Episode 061: Don't Watch And Wait: When Do You Need A Specialist? with Dr. Mark Bertin

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Taking the pressure off the parent by seeking out help and not waiting and worrying.
  • Establishing trust with your pediatrician to help them understand your child & family.
  • Facilitate good communication by writing down questions and histories before your visit.

Episode 060: School Refusal with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Be calm about the situation and get clear about where you are in the process.
  • Get curious about what is going on and use your relationship and communication skills.
  • Rinse and Repeat- continue doing the work and focus on transferring ownership.

Episode 059: The Family System with Complex Kids with Karen Bridbord

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The stress of raising a complex child can affect the entire family dynamic.
  • Triggers and the response of fight, flight, or freeze- finding ways to self-regulate.
  • What if your co-parent or spouse isn't on board.

Episode 058: The Emotional Impact of ADHD with Tamara Rosier

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • ADHD and a high IQ CAN coexist, and the emotional journey that accompanies it.
  • Different coping mechanisms between boys and girls when they think they're "dumb".
  • Addressing WHAT makes your kid feel dumb, and problem solving around it.

Episode 057: Helping Kids Make Sense of How Their Brains Work with Brittany Brousseau

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The benefits of "naming your brain"- get your kid interested in the way their brain works.
  • Neurodiverse kids have rights and responsibilities when fitting into a neurotypical world.
  • The “emotion volcano” regulating myriad emotions by engaging in self-awareness.

Episode 056: Missed Diagnosis: Autism In Girls with Marcia Eckerd, PhD.

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • So much that we thought we knew about autism is not correct, especially in girls.
  • Masking and camouflaging help to make girls appear social to the average observer.
  • Girls can often not pick up on social cues, especially relating to sex and relationships.

Episode 055: Treatment Plans for Parenting The Child You Have with Carolyn Lentzsch Parcells, M.D.

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Education and understanding are key for parents and family to help a complex child.
  • Being able to focus on strengths will help your child achieve their goals and dreams.
  • Treatment plans are about harnessing the positive, not “fixing” the child.

Episode 054: Success Story: Providers Need Help, Too! with Julie Zeff

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Objectivity can be challenging to therapists when it comes to their own kids.
  • A coaching community gives the space and support you need to be a better parent.
  • The value of observation and feedback to help you understand how you parent.

Episode 053: Up Until Now: Making Peace with the Past to Move Forward with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Constantly reflecting on the past can get you lost in a guilt and shame spiral.
  • Adopt a "bring it on" attitude- meet the challenge, use your tools, learn from mistakes.
  • Once you know better, you do better; recognize your mistakes and move beyond.

Episode 052: Managing Life with Restricted Diets with Kathlena The Allergy Chef

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Delay in symptoms can add to misdiagnosis when dealing with allergies and intolerance.
  • There is a way to eat well on restricted diets and enjoy food again.
  • Change when adopting a restrictive diet is overwhelming, but the payoff is worthwhile.

Episode 051: When the School Says No… How to Get the Yes! with Vaughn K. Lauer, Ph D.

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The 6 questions you need to address to create a successful IEP.
  • Being clear on goals and strategies in order to collaborate with educators.
  • The importance of asking for input in a non-threatening way.

Episode 050: Tech Overwhelm & The Metaverse with Stephen Balkam

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Setting up Tech Free boundaries at home and involving kids in setting expectations.
  • Balancing 2D engagement with 3D engagement.
  • Preparing for the next new tech: The Metaverse - what it is and how we need to navigate.

Episode 049: The What & Why of Parent Behavior Training with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What behavioral training is how it makes a difference.
  • Why the role of the parent is so critical in recommended treatment and advocacy.
  • The difference between being reactive and proactive- why it matters.

Episode 048: Pediatrician’s Rx For Parents: Trust Yourself with Dr. Nerissa Bauer

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • You are the expert on your own child - advocate for them with doctors and teachers.
  • There are no stupid questions - have confidence. Connect, Communicate, Collaborate.
  • Including your CHILD in the conversation with your pediatrician is important.

Episode 047: Talking To Kids About Their Neurodiverse Brains with Dr. Liz Angoff

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • When we understand how neurodiverse brains work, we can better support our kids.
  • Her 4-quadrant method for explaining to kids their neurodivergent brains.
  • A diagnosis can mean removing shame in your child’s asking for what they need.

Episode 046: Parenting Is Improv! with Patricia Madsen

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Is a way of being in the world that helps you shift from a negative to positive mindset.
  • Can help find the gift in the moments when things don’t go as expected.
  • Has 3 components: Let go, notice more, use everything.

Episode 045: Helping 2E Kids Reach Their Academic Potential with Dr. Sharig Shemmassian

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of not lowering your expectations of your kids, and giving them encouragement.
  • Dealing with concerns about stigma when disclosing a diagnosis.
  • Understanding the ultimate driver and whether or not a prestige school is the answer.

Episode 044: Effective Agreements with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identify the agenda- this helps with buy in, or identifying the skills required in your kid.
  • Be matter-of-fact and take out emotional factors when discussing what needs to happen.
  • Set a reasonable expectation and be willing to negotiate the agreement as time goes on.

Episode 043: Autism & Anxiety In Girls with Holly Blanc Moses

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • A diagnosis can mean access to services and understanding from others.
  • Autism in girls often presents with intense interests, social anxiety, and masking.
  • Social complications from Autism and ADHD will become more apparent in adolescence.

Episode 042: Trans Youth and Giftedness with Marc Smolowitz

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Neurodiversity is a vertical of identity equal to sex, gender, race, and class.
  • Gender Identity, neurodiversity, creativity, and intelligence fall under the banner of giftedness.
  • Parents have their own journey of helping their complex kids and becoming advocates.

Episode 041: Raising Medically Fragile Kids with Juli Henderson

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Don’t go down the research rabbit hole until you have a diagnosis.
  • Focus on aiding in their journey, instead of trying to fix everything.
  • Find support where you can and learn to ask for help.

Episode 040: Parenting Is Damage Control with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Recognize that it is difficult to be a complex kid, no matter how you parent.
  • Be accountable for your shortcomings- acknowledge, apologize, and be better.
  • Empower your kid to do their own work and trust they will find their way, in time.

Episode 039: Autism, PDA & Combative Behaviors with Kristie Forbes

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Learn about Autism with PDA.
  • All threats ARE equal with someone with PDA; threat response is anxiety response.
  • The importance of normalizing neurodiversity to improve overall mental health.

Episode 038: The Brain-Gut Connection Explained with Dr. Barry Sears

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How is diet like a drug? Learn the importance of Omega-3 fatty acids and fiber.
  • Understand how reducing inflammation is key for any type of neurological condition.
  • Learn about how you can track levels of Omega-3s in your child.

Episode 037: Emotional Labor: Not Just Women’s Work with Dr. Regina Lark

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Women with ADHD often feel despair, shame, and failure in regard to their roles.
  • Emotional management is difficult when faced with the myriad tasks a woman does.
  • Understanding the labor load at home and learning to distribute the work.

Episode 036: Pity or Judgement From Well-Meaning Friends and Family with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Assume someone’s good intention before going on the defense.
  • Find ways to educate people who actually do want to understand and help.
  • Check your own judgement and stop catastrophizing or being triggered.

Episode 035: Parenting With Humility: A Mom’s Journey with Barb Wade

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of not taking your child’s behavior personally; it isn’t about you.
  • Knowing the power of education and support for your child’s specific needs.
  • Finding meaningful ways to engage with your kid to build your relationship.

Episode 034: Growth Happens in Times of Failure with Beth McGaw

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of focusing on strengths in order to improve weaknesses.
  • Pushing through your resistance to allow your kid to fail, allowing growth to happen.
  • Growth happens when your kid works through failures.

Episode 033: Cognitive Skills and Your Kid’s Behavior with Betsy Hill

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What cognitive skills are and why they matter.
  • Intelligence is not fixed; it can develop when you address cognitive skills.
  • Being able to identify strengths and weaknesses in cognitive skills to help complex kids.

Episode 032: What If My CoParent’s Not On The Same Page? with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • A united front isn’t always possible, but it only takes one parent to turn the tide.
  • The difference between agreement and alignment: what are your core goals?
  • Have patience and allow for space and grace, and change will happen.

Episode 031: Using Tech To Get Kids To Talk with Sylvia and Jarrid Hall

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The key to getting your kid to talk is giving them control of the conversation
  • Conversation not only builds the brain, but builds the foundation of a strong relationship
  • Kids are more likely to open up when they feel they are in a safe space

Episode 030: Don't Panic: Your Kid's Not Broken! with Debbie Reber

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Your kid is NOT broken and you are NOT a bad parent
  • Celebrating your kid’s strengths will help society adapt and accept differences
  • The work a parent must do is multifaceted, but invaluable and pays great dividends

Episode 029: Redefining Success For Parents, Students, and Teachers with Liz Dempsey Lee

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Understanding the “soft skills” of in-person connection and interaction
  • New classroom modeling to give kids real-world skills
  • The way the classroom functions is often excluding a large percentage of kids

Episode 028: Gender & Queer Kids with Neurodiversity with Elaine and Diane and special guest, Tracy Lefebvre

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The difference between gender and sexual identity
  • Supporting their journey, while meeting your child where they are now
  • Processing and adjusting as a parent of gender and queer kids

Episode 027: Changing What Kids Believe About Themselves with Shelly Lefkoe

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Understanding the feeling of “I’m not good enough,” and how to change it
  • We all assign meaning to events, when events really don’t have to mean anything
  • What four words you should stop saying

Episode 026: What Does Your Child Really Want From You? with Dr. Liz Matheis

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Understanding that your child’s goals may not be your own
  • Knowing your child’s strengths and harnessing them to overcome challenges
  • Understanding how your child communicates best and respecting it

Episode 025: Working Moms & Parenting: Sanity Tips!

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Being mindful of what you say “yes” to: what is really important in your day-to-day?
  • Self-awareness is key to parenting from a place of calm. Pay attention to triggers and patterns.
  • The value in including your kid in the conversation when tackling problems.

Episode 024: I’ve Tried Everything, And Nothing Works with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identifying the right modality. Is there buy-in for your kid?
  • Are you focused on “fixing” or managing?
  • Set realistic expectations, focus on incremental changes, and be persistent.

Episode 023: New Tech for ADHD Diagnosis with Zachariah Booker

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Bottlenecks in ADHD diagnosis that lead to lost time in implementing support at school.
  • New tech that will target comorbidities and offer suggested evaluations.
  • How the pandemic helped ADHD diagnosis.

Episode 022: Kids’ Mental Health in the Pandemic: A Perfect Storm with Dr. Gene Carroccia

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Mental health in adolescents has been on a decline with a sharp increase since 2020.
  • Where to start when your complex kid likely has a combination of 1 or more of 100 complexities that make their needs entirely unique.
  • Learn about the 5 steps you should take when diagnosing and finding support and treatment for your ADHD kid.

Episode 021: Time Awareness and Management with Heather Rogers

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How managing awareness of the passage of time can be challenging for some.
  • Each person has a different perception of the passage of time.
  • The importance of setting intention with the use of your time.

Episode 020: What Difference Does Diagnosis Make? with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Diagnosis is necessary for therapeutics like medication and accommodations at school.
  • Diagnosis will help you as a parent to know what to focus on and what to learn in order to support your kid at home.
  • One diagnosis may lead to an additional diagnosis, which will further allow you to support your kid.

Episode 019: What Your Kids Want You To Know About ADHD with Nikki Kinzer

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • You do not have control, but you DO have influence on your child
  • What Nikki’s own teen wants you to know about having ADHD
  • Behaviors to look for that are symptomatic of ADHD, Anxiety, or Depression

Episode 018: Act Like a Grown Up: Preventive Maintenance in Parenting with Dr. Laura Markham

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Learn to connect with your child, no matter what age they are
  • Self-care and self-awareness will ensure you parent from a place of calm
  • Five preventative maintenance practices for your kid's emotional wellbeing

Episode 017: Autism Treatment: One-Size Fits No One with Jessica Leichtweisz

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The history of understanding autism has drastically changed in the last 30-40 years
  • Focusing on respecting the fundamental characteristics of someone with autism
  • Certain protocols can aid in some medical issues that often accompany autism

Episode 016: What Story Are You Telling Yourself with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of being aware of the stories you tell yourself.
  • How does the story you tell yourself serve you?
  • How do you create a new story that positively impacts how you react to adversity?

Episode 015: Parenting Anxious Childhood Emotions with Eli Lebowitz

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How SPACE helps change behaviors to help your kid manage anxiety
  • Parents are not the cause of anxiety, but are integral in healing it
  • Childhood anxiety is inherently different from adult anxiety due to development

Episode 014: Anxiety 101: Letting Go Of Expectations with Anna Hill

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identify expectations you need to let go of; what is really important?
  • Take the time to have conversations with your child to strengthen your bond.
  • Learning to have confidence in your child’s decisions while they learn autonomy

Episode 013: Letting Kids Be Kids with George Sachs

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Allowing your kid to find their passion might mean allowing them to “do nothing”
  • Reacting to your child’s diagnosis- sometimes less is best
  • The impact of peer interaction

Episode 012: Consequences and Punishment with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Setting expectations in advance and collaborating with your child on the consequence
  • Using positive consequences to reward actions or changed behavior
  • Don't rely upon consequences alone- your child needs your help in self-regulating

Episode 011: Can You REALLY Control Your Kids? with Gretchen Wegner

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of learning to let go of control as a parent of older kids
  • Recognizing and appreciating your child's agency in their own lives
  • Gretchen's resources for inspiring students with Anti-Boring Approach™

Episode 010: Teach Your Kids To Hold Themselves Up with Stephanie Pitts

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The difference between an educational therapist and a learning specialist
  • Identifying specific struggles for children with ADHD, and finding ways to work with them
  • Creating fun ways to engage with students to teach them in ways that work

Episode 009: Success As A Mom Of Five

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Understanding that ADHD puts children at an average of 30% behind, developmentally and how to adjust your parenting accordingly
  • There is a commonality to approaching challenges, whether your kid is 3 or 33
  • Parents with ADHD are 70% more likely to have children with ADHD

Episode 008: Parenting an Emerging Adult with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Shifting from instructing to collaborating and asking how they want you to help
  • Helping your emerging adult find their motivation and buy-in to be independent
  • Creating "breadcrumbs" for difficult conversations they will WANT to have

Episode 007: Help Kids Stand in Their Power with Kolby Kail

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Everyone wants to feel heard- SLOW DOWN and connect
  • Envision your goal, map out how to get there, and pick 1 thing to focus on
  • Consistency and reliability are key; small increments pay off in the end

Episode 006: Executive Function Skills: What Every Parent Needs to Know with Seth Perler

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The 3 tiers of executive function: foundation, implementation, maintenance
  • The importance of systems, mindset, habits, and routine
  • The most important thing a parent can do to help their kid is to start by focusing on their own self-care
  • Why executive function sets kids up for a quality life

Episode 005: Believe That It’s Going To Be O.K. with Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Getting off the Worry Train will be the most impactful thing a parent can do
  • Consistency and belief will create a positive trajectory in healing and change
  • When you kid is allowed to fail, they gain coping skills which will reduce anxiety
  • Automatic learning for an ADD kid can take 100 more times than average
  • Respect your kid's weaknesses, and honor their strengths

Episode 004: What To Expect For This School Year with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Tools, strategies, and tips will be the same, no matter the challenges
  • Trouble with Transitions will be more challenging in the coming years
  • Anxiety and Avoidance will be heightened with uncertainty this year
  • Getting your OWN work done while managing school is a bigger challenge
  • Why it is important to give your kids flexibility within structure

Episode 003: Success as a Teacher & a Parent

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Strategies learned in the home can be taught to teachers to help your child succeed in school.
  • Sanity School For Teachers helps teachers create a better learning environment to suit a variety of learning needs.
  • Advocating for your kid is paramount when getting teachers on board for implementing what works for your kid.

Episode 002: Pediatric Neurologist on Parenting ADHD: Focus on What Matters with Sarah Cheyette

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Addressing anxiety and stress often leads to an underlying ADHD diagnosis.
  • A foundation of trust is instrumental in navigating ADHD with your child.
  • Focusing on pride and personal satisfaction establishes self-motivation.

Episode 001: Welcome To Parenting With Impact!

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How their own experience with complex kids (and adults) led to ImpactParents.
  • How their relationships and family dynamic improved once they became coaches.
  • The importance of empowering complex kids to take ownership of their lives.
  • The Coach Approach: Turning information into action.
  • How this podcast and community can support positive change in your family dynamic!

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