PARENTING WITH IMPACT PODCAST

Parenting with Impact Podcast

The Parenting with Impact Podcast with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster informs and inspires parents and professionals guiding complex kids to become capable, independent adults. The podcast will:
  • feature leading experts with cutting-edge information;
  • teach real-life, practical strategies to create lasting change;
  • demonstrate how the coach approach can improve family life.
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This week's Episode: Asking For Help: Why Is It So Difficult? with Elaine and Diane

Why is it so hard for your child to ask for help? Making the transition into independence can often backfire when your kiddo will not ask for help when they need it.

Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they discuss the reasons kids have a hard time asking for and accepting help, and how we can prepare them to seek assistance when they need it.

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Here is what to expect on this week's show:

  • What are the common reasons people don’t ask for and accept help?
  • Is it helping or is it controlling? Learning the difference and helping your kid to trust you will assist and not take over.
  • Needing help does not mean you are inadequate. How can you model seeking help for your child?
  • Guiding your child into directing YOU in how you can help them.

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Episode 128: Paradox: High Achieving Adults with ADHD with Casey Dixon

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Under the surface of a highly successful adult with ADHD is often a sea of struggles and history of being dismissed.
  • Managing ADHD while achieving success and finding a balance that doesn’t leave you exhausted and overextended.
  • Taking the complexity out of living well with adult ADHD with treatment and coaching.

Episode 127: Yes, Your Complex Kid WILL Get Into College! with Michelle McAnaney

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Keys to a smooth transition from high school to college for complex kids.
  • Grasp a better understanding of college disability services and accommodations available.
  • Fostering independence and managing anxiety to ensure college success.
  • Remember that your child will change and grow over time, so keep researching and understanding all the options available.
  • Encourage your child to take ownership of the process as much as possible, but be there to support and guide them as needed.

Episode 126: Motivation Myths and the Magic of P.I.N.C.H. with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What is the role of motivation in getting things done?
  • When it looks like your kid lacks motivation, what is really happening?
  • If your child does not have internal motivation, it does not mean a lack of moral values.
  • What are the 5 motivators in P.I.N.C.H., and how can they be applied?

Episode 125: Success! A Mother’s Journey From Shame to Acceptance with Jennifer Gay Summers

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Discover the intricacies of raising a child with ADHD and other disabilities.
  • Learn the value of self-education and advocacy when supporting a child with unique needs.
  • Explore the art of releasing traditional expectations and embracing a more personalized approach.
  • Delve into coping with grief and celebrating the unique attributes of one's child.
  • Uncover the power of memoir writing in sharing experiences and raising awareness.

Episode 124: Keys to Parenting Autism: Education, Coaching & You! with Andrea Pollack

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Shift your perspective by understanding the value of focusing on your child's capabilities.
  • Decipher the hidden motives behind challenging behaviors exhibited by children with autism.
  • Embrace essential self-care practices for parents to ensure balance and optimal support.

Episode 123: Are You Stuck in Informationland? with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Transformation requires information, integration, implementation; you cannot simply stop at information.
  • It is important to understand repetition and improvisation when implementing ideas for change.
  • Strategies alone are not always enough, especially if they are not used in an effective context.
  • What are the “magic 3 questions” to ask yourself if you don’t think a strategy is working?

Episode 122: Medical Bias VS. ADHD: The History of a Smear Campaign with Kelly Pickens, APNP, FNP-BC, ADC-C

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Examine the history of bias against the diagnosis and treatment of ADHD within the healthcare system.
  • Investigate the fascinating roots of ADHD and its (lack of) acceptance as a mental health disorder.
  • Gain insights into how ADHD interacts with other health challenges and its effect on longevity.

Episode 121: Every Day's a New Day: Success with Community Support & Parent Coaching with Ellen

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Unlock wisdom to navigate the high seas of parenting complex children towards victorious outcomes.
  • Uncover the potent impact of community support to uplift parents of complex children.
  • Unbox the potentials of the coach approach for an enriching parenting experience with complex children.
  • Grasp the significance of self-care, adaptability, and introspection in molding the life of your complex child.

Episode 120: Navigating Drama Triangles and Family Dynamics with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Navigate your way through family conflict resolution techniques.
  • Unpack methods for helping children preserve ties with both parents.
  • Absorb strategies for staying impartial and empathetic during family disputes.
  • Unravel the process to bypass the savior or defender role in family fights.
  • Unearth pivotal ways to boost considerate communication and mutual understanding among family members.

Episode 119: When Youth are Targeted: The Impact of Bullies, Victims, Bystanders & Institutional Betrayal with Kayla Taylor

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Validating and nurturing self-esteem of neurodiverse children.
  • Institutional betrayal of children and families navigating complex challenges.
  • Parental involvement in mitigating bullying and advocating for neurodiverse individuals.

Episode 118: What Strong Willed Kids Need from You Most with Randi Rubenstein

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Practical approaches for managing emotions and establishing a healthy family life.
  • Active listening and validation helps nurture secure attachments with your little ones.
  • Strategies for guiding your children without controlling or remedying their behavior.

Episode 117: Treating ADHD Improves Outcomes for Treating Addiction with Chris Foster and Jeremy Didier

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Links between ADHD and addiction, risk minimization and recovery approaches.
  • The importance of accurate and prompt ADHD for maximum effectiveness in treatment
  • Dismantling common biases regarding ADHD medication and potential addiction.

Episode 116: Black Woman Psychotherapist & Coach on ADHD, Resilience & Community with IngerShaye Colzie

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Tackle ADHD evaluation and resource hurdles successfully in educational settings.
  • Implementing effective strategies to manage stress and its impact on parental ADHD symptoms.
  • A look into the of race in ADHD diagnosis practices and therapeutic approaches.

Episode 115: Parenting with Presence: Celebrating Neurodiversity in Kids and Adults with Hope Zvara

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Develop a toolbox of practices to support neurodivergent kids in life's challenges.
  • Embrace and celebrate neurodiversity by understanding your kid’s individual needs.
  • The significance of self-care, self-awareness, and continued learning in raising children.

Episode 114: Success! Curiosity & the Coach-Approach Transformed the Tone of Her Home with Melanie Sobocinski

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How neurodiversity-informed coaching is revolutionizing the parenting experience.
  • How Sanity School provides beneficial resource for parents and professionals
  • Balance between expectations, support, and professional development

Episode 113: The 4 Sources of Conflict in YOUR Family: Part 2 with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Common catalysts for family discord and how to address them.
  • Resolve conflicts involving power imbalances and shifting priorities.
  • Transition towards a collaborative and supportive family environment.

Episode 112: The 4 Sources of Conflict in YOUR Family: Part 1 with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Pinpoint core causes of disagreement in parenting
  • Appreciate the value of validating your child's concerns and perspectives.
  • Develop and maintain a strong foundation of trust in your parent-child bond.
  • Discern how unreal expectations amplify conflicts.

Episode 111: Digital Citizenship: It's Not Too Late to Help Kids & Teens with Susan Hoyer

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Managing tech use for children with executive function or attachment struggles.
  • Gradually incorporating technology in children's lives, considering age and maturity.
  • Master the progression from restricted to free-range tech usage for emerging teens.

Episode 110: CBT for ADHD: Thoughts Don't Cause ADHD, But They Can Help Manage It with Dr. Russell Ramsay

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Discover the immense benefits of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in treating ADHD.
  • Learn how the Coach Approach helps create personalized strategies for thriving with ADHD.
  • Develop an unstoppable growth mindset for achieving outstanding success.

Episode 109: Success! I Changed My Family's Life with Help from Sanity School® with Roxanne Jarrett

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Prioritizing self-care and tapping into supportive resources.
  • Strengthen the parent-child connection through fostering interdependence and
    trust.
  • Adopting inspired strategies to overcome challenging situations.

Episode 108: It’s No Mystery: Why Kids Resist Help and How To Change It with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Uncover the underlying causes for children's hesitancy to request assistance
  • Cultivate an environment that fosters trust and promotes support-seeking
  • Initiate change in cultural perspectives of seeking help and collaboration

Episode 107: College Transition Educator: Helping Students Be Successful in College with Andrea Malkin Brenner, PhD.

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Being realistic: kids don’t go from dependent to independent overnight
  • Teaching life skills early on, step by step. What are the necessary life skills?
  • Your child does not need to be 100% ready. Colleges offer support in finding their way

Episode 106: When Parenting Feels Like a Burning Building with Lt. Shannon Sedlacek (Ret.)

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Mastering the art of staying grounded when faced with high-pressure situations
  • Utilizing the head, the heart, and the hara (flow and action) to deal with stress
  • Collaboration through the coach approach to help your child work on problem solving

Episode 105: What’s The Hardest Thing About Having ADHD? with Eric Tivers

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How school system can make an ADHD diagnosis difficult to succeed.
  • What to do when you child’s hard work in school is ineffective and inefficient.
  • The unique insights gained from parenting a neurodivergent child.

Episode 104: Self Awareness, Self Regulation & Self Management with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Effectively navigating awareness, understanding, intention, and action as a coach.
  • What is needed to do to self-actualize in the way it is wanted most.
  • You can’t control what happens, you can only control how you respond.

Episode 103: Success! Building Strong Relationships at Home and Work with Danielle Junker

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How to best support neurodiverse children and foster strong relationships.
  • Discovering values and gaining clarity in what direction to take in life through coaching.
  • Finding balance between encouraging growth and accepting individual differences.

Episode 102: Stories are Emotional Learning for Complex Kids with Sally J. Pla

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Sally’s diagnosis of sensory integrative processing disorder autism at age 50.
  • Stories provide a neutral way to enter a conversation about emotions and feelings.
  • The importance of giving children the opportunity to create or tell their own stories.

Episode 101: Success! Navigating Resistant Kids and teens with a Coach-Approach with Jenny Drennan

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Strategies that can be used to collaborate with students and meet them where they are.
  • How the Coach approach can be used to scaffold students towards independence.
  • Asking open-ended questions to help to empower shift their narrative of themselves.

Episode 100: Insights from the Podcast: Celebrating 100 Episodes! with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • We have contributed to supporting hundreds of thousands of families all over the world!
  • Our guest experts offer implementable advice and tools to help families of complex kids.
  • Learning how to map out where you are so you can get to where you want to be.

Episode 099: Success! A Tiger Mom (& Coach) of a Different Stripe with Dorothy Liu

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Helping children actualize their optimal potential while respecting cultural expectations.
  • Employ strategies to create a balance between family life and work life.
  • Empowering children to become independent and embrace their unique qualities.

Episode 098: What the Research Tells Us about ADHD Couple Dynamics with Joyce Kubik and Robin Nordmeyer

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How can couples effectively manage ADHD in their relationship?
  • What strategies can couples use to create a more collaborative and open relationship?
  • What is the importance of understanding the role of coaching in relationships with ADHD?

Episode 097: Helping Complex Kids Process: A Student Coach’s Success Story with Scott Garbini

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Navigating the college process for students with ADHD and other learning differences.
  • Strategies for assisting students in achieving their goals.
  • How you can help your children with ADHD be successful without over-parenting.

Episode 096: 2022 Intern'l Conf on ADHD Takeaways Part 2: Technology & Gaming Research with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The correlation between screen use, excessive gaming, and severe ADHD.
  • Understanding the four types of screen use and the three types of gamers.
  • The risks and benefits of gaming, and how to collaborate with kids on a gaming agreement.

Episode 095: What's Different About a 2E Kid? with Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The "Bright and Quirky" phenomenon and how parents can find help for 2E kids.
  • The benefits of focusing on your child's strengths over their lagging skills.
  • Managing your child's internet use and creating balance of online and offline learning.

Episode 094: Suicidal Thoughts: What Every Parent Needs To Know with Frank King

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How Frank merged his personal experience with his comedic talent to help others in the workplace who struggle with suicidal thoughts.
  • What is Chronic Suicide Ideation and how can you change your thinking when presented with a challenge?
  • What is the three-legged stool of suicidality, and the importance of understanding how a suicidal person is thinking. It isn’t just about wanting to die. What parents can say and do.

Episode 093: Helping Kids Become Better Problem Solvers with David Lavietes

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Insights into how people think, feel, and act so you can engage more appropriately.
  • Why people make certain decisions and the importance of personal motivation to change.
  • Using different problem-solving methodologies to find solutions that work best for the individual.

Episode 092: Problem-Solving Collaboratively with a Communication Reset with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Using milestones for a fresh start and a do-over.
  • Breaking out of repetitive patterns in our relationships.
  • Strategies for resetting our expectations and shifting our perspectives.

Episode 091: A Mother's Journey to Joy & Self-Care with Jo Dodd

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How to transition your thinking and actions to achieve greater balance and well-being.
  • The importance of self-care and its essential role in a healthy family.
  • The power of positive thinking, embracing diversity, and crushing fear.

Episode 090: Re-Imagining Parenting: 7 Resilience Strategies for Today’s World with Dr. Michele Borba, Ed.D.

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How parents can make a difference in their child's life.
  • What kids need from adults to thrive.
  • How to foster resilience in kids.

Episode 089: Honoring Individuality: 'Different' Changes the World with Jonathan Mooney

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of self-advocacy for neurodivergent learners.
  • Strength-based versus deficit-based approaches to neurodiversity.
  • The power of positive future-focused thinking for neurodivergent learners.

Episode 088: Takeaway From This Year's International Conference on ADHD: Part 1 with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The growth of the coaching industry in relation to ADHD.
  • The increase in diversity and perspectives at the conference.
  • The idea that emotions are real and should not be shut down.

Episode 087: Success! The Coach Approach at Work and at Home with Mary Christine O’Connor Thomsen

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How a shift in focus from results to participation can transform relationships
  • The importance of connecting with other parents for support when raising young adults
  • The "gift of matter-of-fact" can manage triggers and regain perspective.

Episode 086: Optimizing Brain Wellness to Help Kids be Their Best Self with Dr. Rebecca Jackson

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How the brain works and how it affects our everyday lives.
  • The concept of neuroplasticity and how the brain can change at any age.
  • How to improve brain function through brain training and other exercises.

Episode 085: Treatment vs. Support: What do Complex Families Need? with Mikki Gaffen Stone

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Ten things to consider when trying to make a decision about medication.
  • Exactly what to look for in a behavior therapy training program. Short, sweet, and to the point -- don’t spend hours on the internet scouring.
  • ImpactParents gives you exactly what you need to know without wasting any time or effort.

Episode 084: Risky Behaviors with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The manifestation of risky behaviors in kids with ADHD.
  • Help manage risky behaviors and encourage good decisions.
  • Identifying the underlying causes, and addressing them.

Episode 083: Detox for Complex Kids: Understanding the Gut-Brain Connection with Dana Kay

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Removing the toxic load from your child’s life can reduce inflammation.
  • Is chelation the right choice for your child?
  • Your health is highly impacted by your gut, including your brain function.

Episode 082: Gender Confusion: A Primer for Parents with Cash Ashby

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Addressing a shift in your child’s gender identity with an open mind and respect.
  • Honoring both perspectives of parent and child based on lived experiences.
  • How to handle exploration of medical changes.

Episode 081: Barriers & Solutions to Supporting Students with ADHD with Adrien Harrison

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What are the commonalities of learning issues for Middle School children?
  • How can we simplify what teachers need to learn and do to support ADHD kids?
  • The challenges of coordinating parents/teachers/kids on a single system.

Episode 080: 4 Phases of Parenting: How to Support Without Enabling with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Independence is a process, not a moment of time. What are the 4 stages of parenting?
  • Identifying the difference between wanting independence and being capable of it.
  • Are you stuck in director mode? How do you get into collaboration mode?

Episode 079: Leveling the Playing Field: Accommodations is in High School and College with Laura J. Patey, M. Ed., and Sydney Taylor-Klaus

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What are the foundations of seeking accommodations in high school and college?
  • The importance of seeking support in college to understand needs on the college level.
  • Understanding the PURPOSE of accommodations is key in taking ownership.

Episode 078: Understanding Inattentive ADHD in Kids and Adults with Kristin Wilcox, PhD. and Cynthia Hammer

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Inattentive ADHD is often misdiagnosed- how does it differ from ADHD?
  • Understanding can offer opportunities for conscious self-management.
  • Teachers are not trained to recognize the signs, but are eager to know more.

Episode 077: Accommodations vs. Remediation - What's the Parent's Role? with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identify if your child is read for remediation or if they still need accommodation.
  • What kinds of accommodations can you create at home to help your child?
  • Remember to meet your child where they are and build up from there.

Episode 076: Family Systems Theory: You are Part of a Unit with Dr. Sharon Saline

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identifying factors affecting your complex kid within the family dynamic.
  • Creating guidance for your complex kid to provide support rather than criticism.
  • Compassion for yourself is just as important as compassion for your child.

Episode 075: Yes, You Can Teach Life Skills Through Gaming with Dan Clark

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Utilizing gaming as a way to connect with your child can be very impactful
  • Translate gaming skills into life skills- how to engage with others and problem solve
  • What are they different types of games, and what skills do they hone?

Episode 074: When Smart Kids Don’t Get Good Grades with Dr. Matt Zakreski

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The difference between synchronous and asynchronous neurodevelopment
  • What are the layers of development, and how do 2E kids compare to others?
  • How does the brain of a gifted child differ from others?

Episode 073: Dr. Ned Hallowell: ADDers Are The Game Changers with Dr. Ned Hallowell

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Jump in and Have Fun -- ADHD can be a lot of Fun, struggle, misery.
  • Co-morbidities of ADHD- what you need to be most concerned with.
  • What makes ADD/ADHD an asset?

Episode 072: Travel Planning with Anxious, Inflexible, Neurodiverse Kids with Dawn Barclay

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Small steps to ease your child into travel, and pinpointing triggers.
  • Creating specific activities just for your kid- include them in planning.
  • Explore the ever-growing options for special accommodation for your child.
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Episode 071: Tools To Enhance Your Coaching with Kate Barrett

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Encouraging and exercising resiliency is one of the most effective coaching tools.
  • Employing the coach took box at home improves your ability to help your clients.
  • Build a community of those who get what you are going through.

Episode 070: ADHD & Depression, ADHD & Anxiety, and All of the Above with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • ADHD and depression are often intertwined. How finding the right provider is key in building support for your kid.
  • Depression does not always manifest as sadness, what are the lesser-known symptoms of depression?
  • How to continue challenging executive function skills without triggering depression or pushing your child to the point of refusal.

Episode 069: Parenting Neurodiversity: What You Don’t Know! with Lisa Richer

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What a neurodiverse learner is, possible causes and how they process information.
  • Advocating for your kid starts with understanding how their brain functions and learns.
  • Family & friends can be detractors when not understanding your child or what they need.

Episode 068: The Independence Pyramid: Big Picture and Daily Tasks with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The relationship you have with your child is the foundation to building independence.
  • Your role in getting your child to self-manage, in progressive, buildable steps.
  • Fostering independence in our kids happens is habit building and trust.

Episode 067: Teaching Kids To Be Responsible With Technology with Anne Marie McDonald

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Tech in steps- we cannot throw our kids into tech without learning about it first
  • Using tech is a great way to have conversations with your kid that connects with them
  • Simplified tech is a great way to move into mainstream tech, creating manageable limits

Episode 066: RESENTMENT! Understanding, Managing, & Overcoming It with Elaine and Diane

 Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Resentment can stem from unmet expectations, or the inability to fix something.
  • When we feel resentment, we apply a negative filter to everything and increase stress.
  • How to begin problem solving to overcome resentment.

Episode 065: Regulating ADHD with Neurofeedback with Miriam Bellamy

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What neurofeedback is and how it works and can improve self-regulation.
  • An exposure to biological triggers can lead to multigenerational complex issues.
  • Viewing ADHD as a personality trait and a superpower rather than a diagnosed problem.

Episode 064: Undefinable Brilliance: Brain Development Essentials with Deborah McNelis, M.Ed.

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The 4 major areas of optimal neurodevelopment on a brain from birth to adulthood.
  • Understanding why some children have a developmental delay, and the way forward.
  • Neuroplasticity and how it is never too late to develop new neural pathways.

Episode 063: What To Teach Kids & Teens About Money Management with Rick Webster

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • 61% of individuals with ADHD have significant and severe financial difficulties.
  • Fundamentals: learn how credit works, balancing checkbooks, and budgeting.
  • Teach financial awareness early on; habits learned now will impact the future.

Episode 062: Preventing Stimulus Misuse and Diversion with Kevin Antshel

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Kevin's prevention and intervention education for college freshman.
  • The importance of parental monitoring of these medications at home - counting pills.
  • Understanding diversion - requests to buy your student's legitimate prescription.

Episode 061: Don't Watch And Wait: When Do You Need A Specialist? with Dr. Mark Bertin

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Taking the pressure off the parent by seeking out help and not waiting and worrying.
  • Establishing trust with your pediatrician to help them understand your child & family.
  • Facilitate good communication by writing down questions and histories before your visit.

Episode 060: School Refusal with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Be calm about the situation and get clear about where you are in the process.
  • Get curious about what is going on and use your relationship and communication skills.
  • Rinse and Repeat- continue doing the work and focus on transferring ownership.

Episode 059: The Family System with Complex Kids with Karen Bridbord

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The stress of raising a complex child can affect the entire family dynamic.
  • Triggers and the response of fight, flight, or freeze- finding ways to self-regulate.
  • What if your co-parent or spouse isn't on board.

Episode 058: The Emotional Impact of ADHD with Tamara Rosier

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • ADHD and a high IQ CAN coexist, and the emotional journey that accompanies it.
  • Different coping mechanisms between boys and girls when they think they're "dumb".
  • Addressing WHAT makes your kid feel dumb, and problem solving around it.

Episode 057: Helping Kids Make Sense of How Their Brains Work with Brittany Brousseau

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The benefits of "naming your brain"- get your kid interested in the way their brain works.
  • Neurodiverse kids have rights and responsibilities when fitting into a neurotypical world.
  • The “emotion volcano” regulating myriad emotions by engaging in self-awareness.

Episode 056: Missed Diagnosis: Autism In Girls with Marcia Eckerd, PhD.

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • So much that we thought we knew about autism is not correct, especially in girls.
  • Masking and camouflaging help to make girls appear social to the average observer.
  • Girls can often not pick up on social cues, especially relating to sex and relationships.

Episode 055: Treatment Plans for Parenting The Child You Have with Carolyn Lentzsch Parcells, M.D.

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Education and understanding are key for parents and family to help a complex child.
  • Being able to focus on strengths will help your child achieve their goals and dreams.
  • Treatment plans are about harnessing the positive, not “fixing” the child.

Episode 054: Success Story: Providers Need Help, Too! with Julie Zeff

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Objectivity can be challenging to therapists when it comes to their own kids.
  • A coaching community gives the space and support you need to be a better parent.
  • The value of observation and feedback to help you understand how you parent.

Episode 053: Up Until Now: Making Peace with the Past to Move Forward with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Constantly reflecting on the past can get you lost in a guilt and shame spiral.
  • Adopt a "bring it on" attitude- meet the challenge, use your tools, learn from mistakes.
  • Once you know better, you do better; recognize your mistakes and move beyond.

Episode 052: Managing Life with Restricted Diets with Kathlena The Allergy Chef

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Delay in symptoms can add to misdiagnosis when dealing with allergies and intolerance.
  • There is a way to eat well on restricted diets and enjoy food again.
  • Change when adopting a restrictive diet is overwhelming, but the payoff is worthwhile.

Episode 051: When the School Says No… How to Get the Yes! with Vaughn K. Lauer, Ph D.

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The 6 questions you need to address to create a successful IEP.
  • Being clear on goals and strategies in order to collaborate with educators.
  • The importance of asking for input in a non-threatening way.

Episode 050: Tech Overwhelm & The Metaverse with Stephen Balkam

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Setting up Tech Free boundaries at home and involving kids in setting expectations.
  • Balancing 2D engagement with 3D engagement.
  • Preparing for the next new tech: The Metaverse - what it is and how we need to navigate.

Episode 049: The What & Why of Parent Behavior Training with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What behavioral training is how it makes a difference.
  • Why the role of the parent is so critical in recommended treatment and advocacy.
  • The difference between being reactive and proactive- why it matters.

Episode 048: Pediatrician’s Rx For Parents: Trust Yourself with Dr. Nerissa Bauer

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • You are the expert on your own child - advocate for them with doctors and teachers.
  • There are no stupid questions - have confidence. Connect, Communicate, Collaborate.
  • Including your CHILD in the conversation with your pediatrician is important.

Episode 047: Talking To Kids About Their Neurodiverse Brains with Dr. Liz Angoff

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • When we understand how neurodiverse brains work, we can better support our kids.
  • Her 4-quadrant method for explaining to kids their neurodivergent brains.
  • A diagnosis can mean removing shame in your child’s asking for what they need.

Episode 046: Parenting Is Improv! with Patricia Madsen

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Is a way of being in the world that helps you shift from a negative to positive mindset.
  • Can help find the gift in the moments when things don’t go as expected.
  • Has 3 components: Let go, notice more, use everything.

Episode 045: Helping 2E Kids Reach Their Academic Potential with Dr. Sharig Shemmassian

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of not lowering your expectations of your kids, and giving them encouragement.
  • Dealing with concerns about stigma when disclosing a diagnosis.
  • Understanding the ultimate driver and whether or not a prestige school is the answer.

Episode 044: Effective Agreements with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identify the agenda- this helps with buy in, or identifying the skills required in your kid.
  • Be matter-of-fact and take out emotional factors when discussing what needs to happen.
  • Set a reasonable expectation and be willing to negotiate the agreement as time goes on.

Episode 043: Autism & Anxiety In Girls with Holly Blanc Moses

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • A diagnosis can mean access to services and understanding from others.
  • Autism in girls often presents with intense interests, social anxiety, and masking.
  • Social complications from Autism and ADHD will become more apparent in adolescence.

Episode 042: Trans Youth and Giftedness with Marc Smolowitz

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Neurodiversity is a vertical of identity equal to sex, gender, race, and class.
  • Gender Identity, neurodiversity, creativity, and intelligence fall under the banner of giftedness.
  • Parents have their own journey of helping their complex kids and becoming advocates.

Episode 041: Raising Medically Fragile Kids with Juli Henderson

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Don’t go down the research rabbit hole until you have a diagnosis.
  • Focus on aiding in their journey, instead of trying to fix everything.
  • Find support where you can and learn to ask for help.

Episode 040: Parenting Is Damage Control with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Recognize that it is difficult to be a complex kid, no matter how you parent.
  • Be accountable for your shortcomings- acknowledge, apologize, and be better.
  • Empower your kid to do their own work and trust they will find their way, in time.

Episode 039: Autism, PDA & Combative Behaviors with Kristie Forbes

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Learn about Autism with PDA.
  • All threats ARE equal with someone with PDA; threat response is anxiety response.
  • The importance of normalizing neurodiversity to improve overall mental health.

Episode 038: The Brain-Gut Connection Explained with Dr. Barry Sears

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How is diet like a drug? Learn the importance of Omega-3 fatty acids and fiber.
  • Understand how reducing inflammation is key for any type of neurological condition.
  • Learn about how you can track levels of Omega-3s in your child.

Episode 037: Emotional Labor: Not Just Women’s Work with Dr. Regina Lark

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Women with ADHD often feel despair, shame, and failure in regard to their roles.
  • Emotional management is difficult when faced with the myriad tasks a woman does.
  • Understanding the labor load at home and learning to distribute the work.

Episode 036: Pity or Judgement From Well-Meaning Friends and Family with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Assume someone’s good intention before going on the defense.
  • Find ways to educate people who actually do want to understand and help.
  • Check your own judgement and stop catastrophizing or being triggered.

Episode 035: Parenting With Humility: A Mom’s Journey with Barb Wade

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of not taking your child’s behavior personally; it isn’t about you.
  • Knowing the power of education and support for your child’s specific needs.
  • Finding meaningful ways to engage with your kid to build your relationship.

Episode 034: Growth Happens in Times of Failure with Beth McGaw

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of focusing on strengths in order to improve weaknesses.
  • Pushing through your resistance to allow your kid to fail, allowing growth to happen.
  • Growth happens when your kid works through failures.

Episode 033: Cognitive Skills and Your Kid’s Behavior with Betsy Hill

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • What cognitive skills are and why they matter.
  • Intelligence is not fixed; it can develop when you address cognitive skills.
  • Being able to identify strengths and weaknesses in cognitive skills to help complex kids.

Episode 032: What If My CoParent’s Not On The Same Page? with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • A united front isn’t always possible, but it only takes one parent to turn the tide.
  • The difference between agreement and alignment: what are your core goals?
  • Have patience and allow for space and grace, and change will happen.

Episode 031: Using Tech To Get Kids To Talk with Sylvia and Jarrid Hall

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The key to getting your kid to talk is giving them control of the conversation
  • Conversation not only builds the brain, but builds the foundation of a strong relationship
  • Kids are more likely to open up when they feel they are in a safe space

Episode 030: Don't Panic: Your Kid's Not Broken! with Debbie Reber

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Your kid is NOT broken and you are NOT a bad parent
  • Celebrating your kid’s strengths will help society adapt and accept differences
  • The work a parent must do is multifaceted, but invaluable and pays great dividends

Episode 029: Redefining Success For Parents, Students, and Teachers with Liz Dempsey Lee

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Understanding the “soft skills” of in-person connection and interaction
  • New classroom modeling to give kids real-world skills
  • The way the classroom functions is often excluding a large percentage of kids

Episode 028: Gender & Queer Kids with Neurodiversity with Elaine and Diane and special guest, Tracy Lefebvre

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The difference between gender and sexual identity
  • Supporting their journey, while meeting your child where they are now
  • Processing and adjusting as a parent of gender and queer kids

Episode 027: Changing What Kids Believe About Themselves with Shelly Lefkoe

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Understanding the feeling of “I’m not good enough,” and how to change it
  • We all assign meaning to events, when events really don’t have to mean anything
  • What four words you should stop saying

Episode 026: What Does Your Child Really Want From You? with Dr. Liz Matheis

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Understanding that your child’s goals may not be your own
  • Knowing your child’s strengths and harnessing them to overcome challenges
  • Understanding how your child communicates best and respecting it

Episode 025: Working Moms & Parenting: Sanity Tips!

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Being mindful of what you say “yes” to: what is really important in your day-to-day?
  • Self-awareness is key to parenting from a place of calm. Pay attention to triggers and patterns.
  • The value in including your kid in the conversation when tackling problems.

Episode 024: I’ve Tried Everything, And Nothing Works with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identifying the right modality. Is there buy-in for your kid?
  • Are you focused on “fixing” or managing?
  • Set realistic expectations, focus on incremental changes, and be persistent.

Episode 023: New Tech for ADHD Diagnosis with Zachariah Booker

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Bottlenecks in ADHD diagnosis that lead to lost time in implementing support at school.
  • New tech that will target comorbidities and offer suggested evaluations.
  • How the pandemic helped ADHD diagnosis.

Episode 022: Kids’ Mental Health in the Pandemic: A Perfect Storm with Dr. Gene Carroccia

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Mental health in adolescents has been on a decline with a sharp increase since 2020.
  • Where to start when your complex kid likely has a combination of 1 or more of 100 complexities that make their needs entirely unique.
  • Learn about the 5 steps you should take when diagnosing and finding support and treatment for your ADHD kid.

Episode 021: Time Awareness and Management with Heather Rogers

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How managing awareness of the passage of time can be challenging for some.
  • Each person has a different perception of the passage of time.
  • The importance of setting intention with the use of your time.

Episode 020: What Difference Does Diagnosis Make? with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Diagnosis is necessary for therapeutics like medication and accommodations at school.
  • Diagnosis will help you as a parent to know what to focus on and what to learn in order to support your kid at home.
  • One diagnosis may lead to an additional diagnosis, which will further allow you to support your kid.

Episode 019: What Your Kids Want You To Know About ADHD with Nikki Kinzer

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • You do not have control, but you DO have influence on your child
  • What Nikki’s own teen wants you to know about having ADHD
  • Behaviors to look for that are symptomatic of ADHD, Anxiety, or Depression

Episode 018: Act Like a Grown Up: Preventive Maintenance in Parenting with Dr. Laura Markham

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Learn to connect with your child, no matter what age they are
  • Self-care and self-awareness will ensure you parent from a place of calm
  • Five preventative maintenance practices for your kid's emotional wellbeing

Episode 017: Autism Treatment: One-Size Fits No One with Jessica Leichtweisz

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The history of understanding autism has drastically changed in the last 30-40 years
  • Focusing on respecting the fundamental characteristics of someone with autism
  • Certain protocols can aid in some medical issues that often accompany autism

Episode 016: What Story Are You Telling Yourself with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of being aware of the stories you tell yourself.
  • How does the story you tell yourself serve you?
  • How do you create a new story that positively impacts how you react to adversity?

Episode 015: Parenting Anxious Childhood Emotions with Eli Lebowitz

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How SPACE helps change behaviors to help your kid manage anxiety
  • Parents are not the cause of anxiety, but are integral in healing it
  • Childhood anxiety is inherently different from adult anxiety due to development

Episode 014: Anxiety 101: Letting Go Of Expectations with Anna Hill

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Identify expectations you need to let go of; what is really important?
  • Take the time to have conversations with your child to strengthen your bond.
  • Learning to have confidence in your child’s decisions while they learn autonomy

Episode 013: Letting Kids Be Kids with George Sachs

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Allowing your kid to find their passion might mean allowing them to “do nothing”
  • Reacting to your child’s diagnosis- sometimes less is best
  • The impact of peer interaction

Episode 012: Consequences and Punishment with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Setting expectations in advance and collaborating with your child on the consequence
  • Using positive consequences to reward actions or changed behavior
  • Don't rely upon consequences alone- your child needs your help in self-regulating

Episode 011: Can You REALLY Control Your Kids? with Gretchen Wegner

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The importance of learning to let go of control as a parent of older kids
  • Recognizing and appreciating your child's agency in their own lives
  • Gretchen's resources for inspiring students with Anti-Boring Approach™

Episode 010: Teach Your Kids To Hold Themselves Up with Stephanie Pitts

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The difference between an educational therapist and a learning specialist
  • Identifying specific struggles for children with ADHD, and finding ways to work with them
  • Creating fun ways to engage with students to teach them in ways that work

Episode 009: Success As A Mom Of Five

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Understanding that ADHD puts children at an average of 30% behind, developmentally and how to adjust your parenting accordingly
  • There is a commonality to approaching challenges, whether your kid is 3 or 33
  • Parents with ADHD are 70% more likely to have children with ADHD

Episode 008: Parenting an Emerging Adult with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Shifting from instructing to collaborating and asking how they want you to help
  • Helping your emerging adult find their motivation and buy-in to be independent
  • Creating "breadcrumbs" for difficult conversations they will WANT to have

Episode 007: Help Kids Stand in Their Power with Kolby Kail

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Everyone wants to feel heard- SLOW DOWN and connect
  • Envision your goal, map out how to get there, and pick 1 thing to focus on
  • Consistency and reliability are key; small increments pay off in the end

Episode 006: Executive Function Skills: What Every Parent Needs to Know with Seth Perler

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • The 3 tiers of executive function: foundation, implementation, maintenance
  • The importance of systems, mindset, habits, and routine
  • The most important thing a parent can do to help their kid is to start by focusing on their own self-care
  • Why executive function sets kids up for a quality life

Episode 005: Believe That It’s Going To Be O.K. with Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Getting off the Worry Train will be the most impactful thing a parent can do
  • Consistency and belief will create a positive trajectory in healing and change
  • When you kid is allowed to fail, they gain coping skills which will reduce anxiety
  • Automatic learning for an ADD kid can take 100 more times than average
  • Respect your kid's weaknesses, and honor their strengths

Episode 004: What To Expect For This School Year with Elaine and Diane

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Tools, strategies, and tips will be the same, no matter the challenges
  • Trouble with Transitions will be more challenging in the coming years
  • Anxiety and Avoidance will be heightened with uncertainty this year
  • Getting your OWN work done while managing school is a bigger challenge
  • Why it is important to give your kids flexibility within structure

Episode 003: Success as a Teacher & a Parent

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Strategies learned in the home can be taught to teachers to help your child succeed in school.
  • Sanity School For Teachers helps teachers create a better learning environment to suit a variety of learning needs.
  • Advocating for your kid is paramount when getting teachers on board for implementing what works for your kid.

Episode 002: Pediatric Neurologist on Parenting ADHD: Focus on What Matters with Sarah Cheyette

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • Addressing anxiety and stress often leads to an underlying ADHD diagnosis.
  • A foundation of trust is instrumental in navigating ADHD with your child.
  • Focusing on pride and personal satisfaction establishes self-motivation.

Episode 001: Welcome To Parenting With Impact!

Here's what to expect in this episode:

  • How their own experience with complex kids (and adults) led to ImpactParents.
  • How their relationships and family dynamic improved once they became coaches.
  • The importance of empowering complex kids to take ownership of their lives.
  • The Coach Approach: Turning information into action.
  • How this podcast and community can support positive change in your family dynamic!

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