Parenting is simultaneously the hardest and most rewarding job a person can have. There are extra challenges when you have a child with ADHD, especially if your child is struggling in school, the main job of childhood. It's heartbreaking to watch your child have difficulty with learning and homework and particularly frustrating when you don't know where to turn for help.

To set your children up for success, you need to match the assistance you seek with the specific difficulties your child is having. As there is a lot of help out there, parents need to know where to look and what to ask.

Determine What Is Getting in the Way

Although it's easy to see the poor grades, the reluctance to go to school, or your child's acting out, it's essential to identify the possible reasons for the behavior.

Is your child doing poorly on tests? Are there gaps in their knowledge or skills, making school more difficult than it should be? Are they taking way too long to complete homework assignments – or not turning them in at all?

Trust yourself and your perception of what is getting in the way. You know your child best and you have seen what has occurred with different programs and teachers over the years.

Work With School Personnel

Suppose your child is having general learning or behavioral difficulty in school. In that case, you might work with school personnel to ensure that your child's program and services meet their unique needs. This may entail such things as:

• meeting with the teacher to discuss your concerns,
• requesting a meeting with the school team to discuss interventions that have been tried and/or those that might be put into place,
• pursuing testing to see if your child qualifies for specific programs, accommodations, modifications or services, or
• requesting a review meeting with the IEP or Section 504 team as soon as problems are noted rather than waiting until the annual meeting.

It's vitally important that the six hours or so that your child is in school adequately address your child's learning needs so that they can succeed.

Study Buddy for Homework Completion

Sometimes a child knows the material but can't sit down to complete the work without close supervision. If homework time is an undue struggle, perhaps a high school/college student looking for extra income might be all that is required for your child to begin – and finish! – required homework.

Tutoring for Specific Subjects

After a grueling day at school, it's not uncommon for children to have difficulty working with their parents on homework or studying. Suppose your child needs help with a particular academic area. In that case, a tutor can preview the material or re-teach what wasn't understood so your child can better understand the subject matter and improve grades.

Individualized Instruction with an Educational Therapist

Sometimes a tutor just isn't enough, especially when learning difficulties are due to ADHD and/or learning disabilities. An educational therapist can provide individualized instruction in keeping with your child's unique pattern of strengths and weaknesses. Educational therapists work on specific academic subjects while addressing underlying weaknesses such as visual or auditory processing, memory, and study or test-taking skills. They help students develop appropriate learning strategies and gain more confidence in their abilities.

ADHD Coaching to Get and Stay On Track

As students with ADHD get older, it's often difficult for them to deal with increasing life demands and higher expectations for independence. A coach trained in ADHD can help your child manage their life and responsibilities in and out of school.

Coaches provide support, structure, and accountability as students work to develop skills and strategies to plan, organize, manage time, begin tasks, sustain focus, and work toward completion. They help students get and stay on track by developing goals, designing actions, and monitoring progress to support desired growth.