Quick Tip

Take Time to Check-In Before You Start

Check-In Before You Start

It happens all the time: we start a conversation with someone (on the phone or in person) and quickly we realize that they aren't really listening.  Nine times out of ten this happens because we've started talking before making sure that the other person was engaged in conversation.
We go through life with our own agenda and sometimes we forget to make sure other people are ready to receive the information we want to share with them.  This is particularly a challenge for individuals who have ADHD, because transitions are difficult.  Even if they have picked up the phone and said hello, or are looking directly at you, it's entirely possible that they are “still somewhere else.”

Making sure another person is present before you start talking is actually your responsibility– that is, if you want to have positive results.  The best thing to do is simply “check in.”  Before starting into a conversation, ask something like, “can I interrupt you?” or, “got a minute?” or the ever valuable, “is this a good time to talk?” You'll be much more likely to get a cooperative response on the other side of the conversation. The result is a win-win for everyone.

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